I hope you gave your bartender a big fat tip.
I certainly did. He was quick to point out that he would keep the chair open for me when I came back in a few weeks. I let him know to keep both chairs open as she would again be joining me at the bar when I returned.
For the time that she returned and we chatted and drank he would come over and talk about more Ohio State stuff. There is a point to that: as a man, regardless of the situation and conversation topic, when you have anyone gravitate to you it shows social status. I am smart enough to find a few quick similar interests with people that it becomes the norm for them to continue engaging me in conversation.
Several times he said "I didnt mean to barge in on yall's conversation" after he would come over and say something. I quickly said "Nah you're fine man. We can talk about the Buckeyes all night" and she gave me a look as to say "Hey what about just talking to me?". But that is another point......I didnt put ALL THE FOCUS on her. I remained doing what I wanted and I like to talk about college football in general. Another positive point about me in her head. I resumed doing what I was doing before she got there. She was just now joining me.
The key to what I do in the dating world and with any relationship is this:
There is always a purpose for what I am doing. Seldom am I dont something just for shytes and gigs.
I went there Saturday night with a purpose of a couple of ice cold draft beers and a good steak. I deserved it. Anything else was a bonus.
Every bit of interaction with the bartender to the chick was done with a purpose.
At first the chick was sitting facing forward (for probably the first 5 minutes). As we got into some banter and conversation:
1.) Within 10 minutes she was actually sitting sideways in her chair and facing me, with her feet on the foot part of my chair. (not once did she face the other guy while he was there).
2.) She playfully tapped my shoulder and then my leg during part of a conversation that I playfully let her know we didnt agree upon (not once did I see her even touch this guy).
3.) She was looking at me most of the conversation (didnt look at the other guy much at all)
4.) Numerous times I noticed her playing with her hair, twirling it around her finger.
5.) When the bartender asked me about the check, I told him the first round was on her and to put the rest on my tab. Her only reaction was "I am only going to let you buy my other drinks if we are going to do this again when you return in a couple of weeks".
How a woman reacts to you is a mirror of your game. The scenario on how this woman clearly reacted to the first guy and how her and her body language responded to me were totally different.
Do everything with a purpose, be outcome indifferent and keep everything fun (as in light and playful....not try to be a comedian).
