"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I can see both your points Lefty and Norway. I feel the urge to say, who cares, what works works. You're both agreeing as well anywho. You're both talking about the zone, where thoughought is below conscious awareness and reacations are based on instinctual comprehension of the situation, while learning occurs at the same subconscious level and is ingrained into the persons base intelligence, yes?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Jack Wealthy said:
I can see both your points Lefty and Norway. I feel the urge to say, who cares, what works works. You're both agreeing as well anywho. You're both talking about the zone, where thoughought is below conscious awareness and reacations are based on instinctual comprehension of the situation, while learning occurs at the same subconscious level and is ingrained into the persons base intelligence, yes? You think, and you learn, then act, and act until it becomes subconscious
That
 

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I can see some familiarity with what you are saying the idea of "flow".

This is why I currently should be feeling inferior:

I sit here on the eve of the ultimate day of the most wasteful week of my life. For this week I had big plans academically, I was going to get back on track thus giving me room to concentrate on other areas of my life. This is the biggest set back I have suffered since the beginning of my growth. I had the week off on Half-term and here's my diary.

Saturday- Went to a friends party and there was one girl who I had interest in, unfortunately this was not reciprocated. Got high.

Sunday- Cloudy brain from the previous night. Spanked the monkey. Watched a couple of Denzel movies, I shall work tomorrow!

Monday- Woken up by a phone call offering work. I like money so I took it. Went home and watched a movie. Spanked the monkey.

Tuesday- Got high. Spanked the monkey.

Wednesday- Got high. Spanked the monkey.

Thursday- Got high. Spanked the monkey twice.

Friday- Cooked some MJ got high.

Saturday- Bonfire night. Got high, went to neighbors bonfire party baked. Spanked the monkey.

Sunday- Spanked the monkey. Wrote on So Suave.

This has been a **** up on massive propoortions, I have done no work. The pain I shall suffer is deserved.

On the plus side I have a major reinvention in the pipeline so I shall write a post on the six pillars of self-esteem.
 

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Gripped said:
I can see some familiarity with what you are saying the idea of "flow".

This is why I currently should be feeling inferior:

I sit here on the eve of the ultimate day of the most wasteful week of my life. For this week I had big plans academically, I was going to get back on track thus giving me room to concentrate on other areas of my life. This is the biggest set back I have suffered since the beginning of my growth. I had the week off on Half-term and here's my diary.

Saturday- Went to a friends party and there was one girl who I had interest in, unfortunately this was not reciprocated. Got high.

Sunday- Cloudy brain from the previous night. Spanked the monkey. Watched a couple of Denzel movies, I shall work tomorrow!

Monday- Woken up by a phone call offering work. I like money so I took it. Went home and watched a movie. Spanked the monkey.

Tuesday- Got high. Spanked the monkey.

Wednesday- Got high. Spanked the monkey.

Thursday- Got high. Spanked the monkey twice.

Friday- Cooked some MJ got high.

Saturday- Bonfire night. Got high, went to neighbors bonfire party baked. Spanked the monkey.

Sunday- Spanked the monkey. Wrote on So Suave.

This has been a **** up on massive propoortions, I have done no work. The pain I shall suffer is deserved.

On the plus side I have a major reinvention in the pipeline so I shall write a post on the six pillars of self-esteem. I find that when i'm most dedicated, when I am at my highest mental state of wanting to achieve success, nothing else matters. I don't think about girls, I don't think about partying, and I don't think about writing stuff on forums. I am in the zone, and am driven. Nothing else matters when I'm there, nothing.
It seems that your 2 problems are: you spank the monkey too much, and you get high too much.
 

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Seriously dude, lay off the drugs. Once a week tops, and only in social environments.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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First of all Lefty, you're ignoring progression in an open skill via comfort ad oppose to knowledge. State isn't a skill per se so it doesn't have to be learnt like one. By focusing instead on not thinking, you can improve drastically. Overthinking is the most common problem of.the masses, as well as thing which distinguishes players from pussies and AFCs most often.
 

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Jack Wealthy said:
First of all Lefty, you're ignoring progression in an open skill via comfort ad oppose to knowledge. State isn't a skill per se so it doesn't have to be learnt like one. By focusing instead on not thinking isn't this thinking?, you can improve drastically. Overthinking is the most common problem of.the masses, as well as thing which distinguishes players from pussies and AFCs most often.
AlexLefty said:
You think, and you learn, then act, and act until it becomes subconscious
^This?
 

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Simply judging by the way you write I can tell you are nerdy and over-analyze situations...gotta quit that. Be the man you would f*** if you were a hot girl.

Care less about people's opinions of you...have fun without trying to get the girl or get laid (trust me this one is difficult)...and start going to the gym and compete against yourself, not anybody else.

I agree with what DanZy said on this one. While blunt, I feel like you're the type that would argue my points if I said anything more so: stop being a p****.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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jericg said:
Same thing in sports: when I feel that there are other guys more skillful than I am, I tend to play a lot worse. I feel intimidated. How do we apply DJ skills to this?
It's simple, really. Do not focus on others. Focus on yourself. You are to grow yourself and love others if you truly wish to be a "Don Juan". Stand for what you believe, and don't stop until you get where you want.

To any DJs suffering from absence of money for a gym (normally the younger DJs), do a lot of pushups. Ab work doesn't really do much. If you want to work them abs, do lots of pushups and flex your abs while you do them. My advice is to do wide pushups and diamonds. Knuckles are good, too. This builds strength and endurance. Switch up the routine every so often, though, meaning "Do different ****".
Don't stop, either. You have to keep going until muscle failure if you're not using weights.
Well, you don't really HAVE to, but it certainly works and feels great.

Good luck!
 

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Google for "Legendary Abs Program", it works great, been doing it for 25 years now. I can take any man's bare knuckle punch to my navel. Some can knock me down,but i won't be hurt. Most can't even make me grunt.
 

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goundra said:
Google for "Legendary Abs Program", it works great, been doing it for 25 years now. I can take any man's bare knuckle punch to my navel. Some can knock me down,but i won't be hurt. Most can't even make me grunt.
I bet you havent even been in a fight.
 

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No. There may be a sun in the sky, but that doesn't mean the sky is the sun.
Sweet zen koan. I agree with you.

Gripped, don't be so down on yourself. Regroup and go again! Make a list of three things to accomplish per day and they will get done.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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no, but I've hit people who THOUGHT that they were going to hit me. i've been teaching taekwando for almost 40 years now. I don't have to let anyone touch me, and I don't.
 

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goundra said:
no, but I've hit people who THOUGHT that they were going to hit me. i've been teaching taekwando for almost 40 years now. I don't have to let anyone touch me, and I don't.
Mate if you're so "hardcore" and are at least 40 years old, why do you keep commenting on the high school forum? Especially with random crap like mercenary jobs, hiring Filipino women and essentially manipulating them into work so you get paid etc. Coupled with your general guns and violence obsession, it all seems very, very fake and forced
 

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BPH said:
Simply judging by the way you write I can tell you are nerdy and over-analyze situations...gotta quit that. Be the man you would f*** if you were a hot girl.

Care less about people's opinions of you...have fun without trying to get the girl or get laid (trust me this one is difficult)...and start going to the gym and compete against yourself, not anybody else.

I agree with what DanZy said on this one. While blunt, I feel like you're the type that would argue my points if I said anything more so: stop being a p****.
This struck me.

I have been called many things; ugly, handsome, intelligent, stupid, charismatic, boring, a ladies man, a loser, an *******, too nice, sporty, uncoordinated, funny, unamusing, charming, rude open minded, closed minded, confident, shy and more. However in my 17 year history on this planet I have been called neither nerdy nor cool. I guess that means there's only one place left to go.

I think you hit a bulls-eye there Lefty.

Unfortunately I will have to disagree with most of you, as I feel this matter is being over simplified. Just saying man the **** up does not help; in fact if I were to take it on a personal level it could be damaging. I have shamefully not been working on myself but instead contemplating life and if there is one thing I have learned in the recent weeks it is this:

The self-image is key and principally causes these experiences of "inferiority". Alex posted a short time ago that our concept of what others believe to be true about oneself is in fact the self-image. I came across countless parties supporting this whilst researching self-esteem. So my decidedly unoriginal opinion is that we believe others see us as weak and inferior so we behave weak and inferior which only results in them treating us as if it were true thereby reinforcing our affirmations of low self-respect. Inferiority is a self-perpetuating monster. Where my opinion differs from most of you is that this cycle is not easy to break. If you yourself have broken it than it seems ridiculous to intimidated by the mere presence of an "alpha" (although these so-called alphas I am talking about are 95% distinctly lacking in dominant traits, they are nonetheless superior on the social ladder) as that is the very nature of self-worth.
 

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It's not easy. Now that we've realized this, what do we do? That you can choose your response to your situation is what makes you human. What makes you better is what you choose that response to be. Take charge, organize yourself, and propel forward.
 

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Dude you're going to look back in a year's time and think to yourself "Wow, I really was a pvssy back then". You can analyse this as much as you like but in the end, everything comes down to you taking action. There's zero need to analyse this as much as you have, it won't help. You've recognised and admitted the problem, now get down to some hard graft and overcome it. It's not easy, it won't be quick but you'll be damn better for it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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