i'm in a great ltr with an amazing girl but especially during the summer when she's away I keep thinking of how I could be having fun flirty encounters with girls left and right (not to mention fun sex with girls I know who are into that lighthearted summer fling type of thing). it doesn't help that being in a ltr means that she tells you every time she overhears that some mutual friend babe totally thinks i'm sexy. i don't know if i'm asking for advice or not, just venting lol. maybe it's the sexual frustration.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
in a ltr but i can do so much more than that
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Its a good idea to game girls while in a ltr, even if not cheating. It reminds you that she aint the only one, and helps you maintain more control of your manhood, as well as keeping your game tight in case it doesnt work out. Besides, if you're spending summers apart, its a good chance that one or both of you will have a casual fling or two. Dont ask, dont tell. you're both human.
hmm i getcha horaholic but the problem is these girls I flirt with are mutual friends or are connected to her in some way... so its like i can't really get away with it. i think what i'm going to do is chill out til summer ends, think about the relationship for a couple months when she's back, and if i'm still tempted by all kinds of girls, split it off.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.