i'm in a great ltr with an amazing girl but especially during the summer when she's away I keep thinking of how I could be having fun flirty encounters with girls left and right (not to mention fun sex with girls I know who are into that lighthearted summer fling type of thing). it doesn't help that being in a ltr means that she tells you every time she overhears that some mutual friend babe totally thinks i'm sexy. i don't know if i'm asking for advice or not, just venting lol. maybe it's the sexual frustration.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
in a ltr but i can do so much more than that
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Its a good idea to game girls while in a ltr, even if not cheating. It reminds you that she aint the only one, and helps you maintain more control of your manhood, as well as keeping your game tight in case it doesnt work out. Besides, if you're spending summers apart, its a good chance that one or both of you will have a casual fling or two. Dont ask, dont tell. you're both human.
hmm i getcha horaholic but the problem is these girls I flirt with are mutual friends or are connected to her in some way... so its like i can't really get away with it. i think what i'm going to do is chill out til summer ends, think about the relationship for a couple months when she's back, and if i'm still tempted by all kinds of girls, split it off.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.