i'm in a great ltr with an amazing girl but especially during the summer when she's away I keep thinking of how I could be having fun flirty encounters with girls left and right (not to mention fun sex with girls I know who are into that lighthearted summer fling type of thing). it doesn't help that being in a ltr means that she tells you every time she overhears that some mutual friend babe totally thinks i'm sexy. i don't know if i'm asking for advice or not, just venting lol. maybe it's the sexual frustration.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
in a ltr but i can do so much more than that
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Its a good idea to game girls while in a ltr, even if not cheating. It reminds you that she aint the only one, and helps you maintain more control of your manhood, as well as keeping your game tight in case it doesnt work out. Besides, if you're spending summers apart, its a good chance that one or both of you will have a casual fling or two. Dont ask, dont tell. you're both human.
hmm i getcha horaholic but the problem is these girls I flirt with are mutual friends or are connected to her in some way... so its like i can't really get away with it. i think what i'm going to do is chill out til summer ends, think about the relationship for a couple months when she's back, and if i'm still tempted by all kinds of girls, split it off.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.