i'm in a great ltr with an amazing girl but especially during the summer when she's away I keep thinking of how I could be having fun flirty encounters with girls left and right (not to mention fun sex with girls I know who are into that lighthearted summer fling type of thing). it doesn't help that being in a ltr means that she tells you every time she overhears that some mutual friend babe totally thinks i'm sexy. i don't know if i'm asking for advice or not, just venting lol. maybe it's the sexual frustration.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
in a ltr but i can do so much more than that
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Its a good idea to game girls while in a ltr, even if not cheating. It reminds you that she aint the only one, and helps you maintain more control of your manhood, as well as keeping your game tight in case it doesnt work out. Besides, if you're spending summers apart, its a good chance that one or both of you will have a casual fling or two. Dont ask, dont tell. you're both human.
hmm i getcha horaholic but the problem is these girls I flirt with are mutual friends or are connected to her in some way... so its like i can't really get away with it. i think what i'm going to do is chill out til summer ends, think about the relationship for a couple months when she's back, and if i'm still tempted by all kinds of girls, split it off.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.