"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Improving sex drive

viking22

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I am in my mid 30s and only seem to want it once or twice a week. This is OK for casual dating but occasionally I do run into nymphos who want it several times a night or want weekend sex marathons and in a relationship it can be a bit of a problem.

I have had a full medical workup. Nothing wrong with my hormones. My sleep isn't amazing and I suffer from mild depression but these things are difficult to treat and antidepressants are renowned for lowering sex drive! So I have avoided them for a very long time. My diet is fairly clean and I am in decent shape.

Anyone have similar issues and found anything that helps?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BackInTheGame78

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Weighted vest hill climbs. 3 sets of 10. Do this a few times a week. Thank me later.

You will reign destruction in the bedroom like never before.
 

Bingo-Player

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There is nothing wrong with you it is completely natural for sex drive to decline as you get older

Not just because of natural reasons but also because it usually becomes a lot less stimulating as you get older

Having sex in your early 20's is a lot more exciting than having sex in your early 30's but many do not want to accept this as society likes to portray sex as some sort of holy ritual of pleasure
 

IKO69

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It's expected that desire will wane as you get older.

Libido is tied to sleep & diet - these are the main culprits (assuming you don't have something else wrong with you). Lack of sleep, stress, poor diet will absolutely tank your sex drive. You need to balance all of this.

Try to get more sleep and make sure you are getting enough micronutrients.
 

Plinco

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Weighted vest hill climbs. 3 sets of 10. Do this a few times a week. Thank me later.

You will reign destruction in the bedroom like never before.
What exactly is that? Having a vest full of weight and climbing a hill?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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EyeBRollin

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I’m the same. Labs look good. I can lift like an ox.

Still, I’m good with only 2-3 times per week. 10 years ago I wanted it twice a day. I have no problems getting it up I just don’t crave sex nearly as much as I used to.
 

Bandolero

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With time you become aware that it is just a nut .
Nothing magical about it anymore like it used to be when we were 18-25 .

If you had enough post nut clarity experiences it just becomes a part of us .

We know we need it , but not everyday.
 

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With time you become aware that it is just a nut .
Nothing magical about it anymore like it used to be when we were 18-25 .

If you had enough post nut clarity experiences it just becomes a part of us .

We know we need it , but not everyday.
Exactly this. Reminds me of a quote from Marcus Aurelius:

"When you have savories and fine dishes set before you, you will gain an idea of their nature if you tell yourself that this is the corpse of a fish, and that is the corpse of a bird or a pig; or again, that wine is merely grape-juice, and this purple robe some sheep's wool dipped in the blood of a shellfish; and as for sexual intercourse, it is the friction of a piece of gut and, following a sort of convulsion, the expulsion of some mucus." - Marcus Aurelius, Meditations Book 6.13

Busting a nut certainly isn't something you want your life to be revolving around.
 
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