"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm too damn lazy and need life changing advice
- Thread starter Rint
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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So do I, really, but I'm doing things to build up my discipline and make me a better person. An interesting article to read, posted on Steve Pavlina's web site, a six part series one Self-Discipline:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/06/self-discipline/
Focusing on how you don't have 'enough' motivation isn't going to help you become a better person, unless your 'better self' is unmotivated and self-loathing. And if that's the case, I hope your 'better self' is also planning to be a virgin, because he won't be very attractive to the ladies.
Focus on correcting the small, easy things first. Don't try to pick up sand and create a microscope. If your room is messy, take some time every week to pick it up. Do chores on time, and turn in all your homework on time. It is the habits that you create which will make you a better person.
Although, since you're 15, you also have a long time ahead of you, and you aren't done growing. Think about who you want to be when you graduate from high school, when you start college. See him in your mind, and use him to motivate you. Let him provide encouragement, or kick your a$$ into gear if you get lazy. How many men on this board wish that they could go back in time and tell their younger selves what to do? To develop discipline, to overcome the fear, to develop muscles and style, to stop acting like a pvssy or b!tch, to be a man?
If I could, I would. I'd kick my 15y.o self in the nuts, tell him (myself) to suck it up and be a man, then take him to a mall to by some clothes that actually fit and match. Force him to approach the girls I had crushes on back then, giving tips for success and support after rejections, and make sure that he never let an opportunity slip away because of fear. Proper diet and exercise (damn, I drank a lot of mountain dew back then!) and build up his self-confidence and self-respect.
Develop the discipline to become the man you were born to be.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Once you find this person, think about how he will react if he was in your situation. Then follow what you think this person will do, and do it. My model is tennis player Rafael Nadal. Dont ask. Watch him playing if you want to know why.
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TruthHurts
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who cares what they think?Rint said:ok i'ma keep working out cause the chicks say it makes me look good.
Stop living your life for girls, and start living your life for YOU. When you do that, the girls will naturally be attracted to you.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.