"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm too damn lazy and need life changing advice
- Thread starter Rint
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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So do I, really, but I'm doing things to build up my discipline and make me a better person. An interesting article to read, posted on Steve Pavlina's web site, a six part series one Self-Discipline:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/06/self-discipline/
Focusing on how you don't have 'enough' motivation isn't going to help you become a better person, unless your 'better self' is unmotivated and self-loathing. And if that's the case, I hope your 'better self' is also planning to be a virgin, because he won't be very attractive to the ladies.
Focus on correcting the small, easy things first. Don't try to pick up sand and create a microscope. If your room is messy, take some time every week to pick it up. Do chores on time, and turn in all your homework on time. It is the habits that you create which will make you a better person.
Although, since you're 15, you also have a long time ahead of you, and you aren't done growing. Think about who you want to be when you graduate from high school, when you start college. See him in your mind, and use him to motivate you. Let him provide encouragement, or kick your a$$ into gear if you get lazy. How many men on this board wish that they could go back in time and tell their younger selves what to do? To develop discipline, to overcome the fear, to develop muscles and style, to stop acting like a pvssy or b!tch, to be a man?
If I could, I would. I'd kick my 15y.o self in the nuts, tell him (myself) to suck it up and be a man, then take him to a mall to by some clothes that actually fit and match. Force him to approach the girls I had crushes on back then, giving tips for success and support after rejections, and make sure that he never let an opportunity slip away because of fear. Proper diet and exercise (damn, I drank a lot of mountain dew back then!) and build up his self-confidence and self-respect.
Develop the discipline to become the man you were born to be.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Once you find this person, think about how he will react if he was in your situation. Then follow what you think this person will do, and do it. My model is tennis player Rafael Nadal. Dont ask. Watch him playing if you want to know why.
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TruthHurts
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who cares what they think?Rint said:ok i'ma keep working out cause the chicks say it makes me look good.
Stop living your life for girls, and start living your life for YOU. When you do that, the girls will naturally be attracted to you.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.