"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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So do I, really, but I'm doing things to build up my discipline and make me a better person. An interesting article to read, posted on Steve Pavlina's web site, a six part series one Self-Discipline:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/06/self-discipline/
Focusing on how you don't have 'enough' motivation isn't going to help you become a better person, unless your 'better self' is unmotivated and self-loathing. And if that's the case, I hope your 'better self' is also planning to be a virgin, because he won't be very attractive to the ladies.
Focus on correcting the small, easy things first. Don't try to pick up sand and create a microscope. If your room is messy, take some time every week to pick it up. Do chores on time, and turn in all your homework on time. It is the habits that you create which will make you a better person.
Although, since you're 15, you also have a long time ahead of you, and you aren't done growing. Think about who you want to be when you graduate from high school, when you start college. See him in your mind, and use him to motivate you. Let him provide encouragement, or kick your a$$ into gear if you get lazy. How many men on this board wish that they could go back in time and tell their younger selves what to do? To develop discipline, to overcome the fear, to develop muscles and style, to stop acting like a pvssy or b!tch, to be a man?
If I could, I would. I'd kick my 15y.o self in the nuts, tell him (myself) to suck it up and be a man, then take him to a mall to by some clothes that actually fit and match. Force him to approach the girls I had crushes on back then, giving tips for success and support after rejections, and make sure that he never let an opportunity slip away because of fear. Proper diet and exercise (damn, I drank a lot of mountain dew back then!) and build up his self-confidence and self-respect.
Develop the discipline to become the man you were born to be.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Once you find this person, think about how he will react if he was in your situation. Then follow what you think this person will do, and do it. My model is tennis player Rafael Nadal. Dont ask. Watch him playing if you want to know why.
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TruthHurts
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who cares what they think?Rint said:ok i'ma keep working out cause the chicks say it makes me look good.
Stop living your life for girls, and start living your life for YOU. When you do that, the girls will naturally be attracted to you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.