I need a punch in the face. Well what I really need is a kick in the balls. I have been studying the way of the DJ for quite awhile now and I know what to do and how to do it. The only thing is I stay at home all fecking day on sit on my ass all day. When I am out, I will see women and I know what to say, but I don't do anything and I go home and kick myself coz I didn't do anything. I won't get out of the house and do anything, I just make excuses to not meet women. I'm too damn lazy and too negative. What the hell can I do?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I'm sick of my bull****
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
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Street_Fighter
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it sounds like you are expecting waaay too much..how can I tell?
because you're over reacting...
just a little
because you're over reacting...
just a little
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
stop whining
you only live once...
you only live once...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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than go approach
feelingloved
Don Juan
baby steps. like a cheetah, look for the sick baby gazelle.
go for the environment that makes it easy. Look for that first easy step.
go for the environment that makes it easy. Look for that first easy step.
jtrain 289
Senior Don Juan
dont make a plan just do it when you think about what to do you unconsciously putting pressure on yourself and you get really afraid of rejection because you planned it. There is no right thing to say to a girl buddy just go their and and show her you have a ****
Crazy Asian
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FIRST
try talking to random strangers everywhere you go, then u'll have more experience as to wut to talk about.
then try talking to girls with the intention to attract
then the hot girls
try talking to random strangers everywhere you go, then u'll have more experience as to wut to talk about.
then try talking to girls with the intention to attract
then the hot girls
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Crazy Asian said:
QFT! Throw yourself into the fire. Don't fvcking think, just do it. Yes, you'll mess up. Trust me it doesn't matter. Just remember this is practice. Always keep that in mind. The next time you feel the opportunity, make the move...one at a time.
Wait whats that? You did? But you failed!!?? Guess what....that moment in time where you messed up just flew into the nothingness of infinity. No one will remember what even happened....so what have you got to lose?
drummer
Senior Don Juan
And you learn from those mistakes.. just making yourself better for the next time.
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
Try a club
build up that thick skin
build up that thick skin
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.