I need a punch in the face. Well what I really need is a kick in the balls. I have been studying the way of the DJ for quite awhile now and I know what to do and how to do it. The only thing is I stay at home all fecking day on sit on my ass all day. When I am out, I will see women and I know what to say, but I don't do anything and I go home and kick myself coz I didn't do anything. I won't get out of the house and do anything, I just make excuses to not meet women. I'm too damn lazy and too negative. What the hell can I do?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm sick of my bull****
- Thread starter noirsake
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
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Street_Fighter
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it sounds like you are expecting waaay too much..how can I tell?
because you're over reacting...
just a little
because you're over reacting...
just a little
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
stop whining
you only live once...
you only live once...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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than go approach
feelingloved
Don Juan
baby steps. like a cheetah, look for the sick baby gazelle.
go for the environment that makes it easy. Look for that first easy step.
go for the environment that makes it easy. Look for that first easy step.
jtrain 289
Senior Don Juan
dont make a plan just do it when you think about what to do you unconsciously putting pressure on yourself and you get really afraid of rejection because you planned it. There is no right thing to say to a girl buddy just go their and and show her you have a ****
Crazy Asian
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FIRST
try talking to random strangers everywhere you go, then u'll have more experience as to wut to talk about.
then try talking to girls with the intention to attract
then the hot girls
try talking to random strangers everywhere you go, then u'll have more experience as to wut to talk about.
then try talking to girls with the intention to attract
then the hot girls
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Crazy Asian said:
QFT! Throw yourself into the fire. Don't fvcking think, just do it. Yes, you'll mess up. Trust me it doesn't matter. Just remember this is practice. Always keep that in mind. The next time you feel the opportunity, make the move...one at a time.
Wait whats that? You did? But you failed!!?? Guess what....that moment in time where you messed up just flew into the nothingness of infinity. No one will remember what even happened....so what have you got to lose?
drummer
Senior Don Juan
And you learn from those mistakes.. just making yourself better for the next time.
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
Try a club
build up that thick skin
build up that thick skin
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.