I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This particular subject is what it is, cliche as such statements may sound... There will NEVER be a day in which a drunken/dope filled ONS with some broad we met 10 minutes prior doesn't also carry the danger of her claiming afterwards: "He plied me with intoxicants"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
True. I'm just saying there was a period there when it was exceptionally risky, and the pendulum had swung too far in one direction.
False rape allegations are rare (2%-11%). They do not involve actual sex, consensual or otherwise. Instead, the women fabricate cases for alibis (Cathleen Crowell, Tawana Brawley), money (Brian Banks), or attention (Rolling Stone's Jackie). False allegations might not involve accusations. Jackie refused to name her assailant. Other women just say a masked stranger assaulted her and fled. So your actual risk is low, and has nothing to do with your consensual love-life.
I can tell that you have not read these studies. Jurisdictions do not decide "false", the researcher does. Consensual sex does not put you at risk because false accusations do not come from consensual one-night-stands or drunk sex. False allegators typically accuse some random guy to get an alibi for cheating. Or like Rolling Stone's Jackie, they invent an assailant to get sympathy and make another guy jealous.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
