"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm going to fvck my ex-oneitis
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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The reason I want a year to do this is because I know that she regrets never having hooked up with me and I'm going to bank on the idea of going away and never seeing each other in order to justify some guilt free play.
Come on now...I've waited three years for this, I have other options and I can wait another.
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Raise your standards, especially in yourself. Who gives a **** about your ex-oneitis? She is not special.“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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To steal a good man's line... Silly rabbit.
We all have a past we wish we could conquer... and for some of us, we can.
Ask yourself why... why you want to conquer your past? Is it a grudge?
There is no reason... it seems good on paper, and Lik may very well tell you thats the right thing to do. I'm saying: he's wrong.
Trust me... I know you're going to go through with this anyway... but I told you so.
Sigh...
I'm not focusing on this girl. I don't even like her. She's in the background - whenever she breaks up with her boyfriend, I'm going to make my move. Until then I'll keep pulling her in like I have been.
Would you turn down free play from an attractive girl who you get along well with?
AFK Protector
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Yeah, you just screwed yourself right there. lol.
Something tells me your ex-oneitis shouldn't have the ex- in front of it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i like you and i see that this might work as a way of conquering your past but
You want to sleep with a girl you don't even like - uh ha
I don't buy it - either your penis is dragging you around or you like her and are lying to yourself. both of which are bad.
I dont care if you want to bang out her brains and then film a snuff movie but you don't want to lie to yourself. hell if i had a chance with any of my old crushes id jump at it cos they were all fine women. I told myself i didnt like them anymore to get over them but as they were attractive id do them and therefore i do actually like them, as much as i tell myself otherwise. Some of them now, i would not touch with a barge pole because i no longer like them.
Sleep with her by all means but if you get on with her, let her know its gonna be a temporary thing (jesus- never thought id hear myself say that, as normally if its someone youv known for a long time it wont help you get her into bed). Just do not screw her for feelings of revenge, cos that sounds like something id do, but i know id feel totally guilty about it afterwards.
Neway do what you want and roll with the punches
She isn't big on committment either. She gets bored with her boyfriends after a few weeks or months and stays with them out of convenience.
I no longer develop crushes on women. I've "liked" one girl in the past 2 years. That said, I wouldn't ever intentionally do anything to hurt her.
So, it isn't about revenge. This will just be me and her doing what we should have done a long time ago. Fun for a summer, but nothing more.
AFK Protector
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Yeah, you're right Porky. I don't know jack **** about you. Maybe we can be best friends and change that.