"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm going to fvck my ex-oneitis
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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The reason I want a year to do this is because I know that she regrets never having hooked up with me and I'm going to bank on the idea of going away and never seeing each other in order to justify some guilt free play.
Come on now...I've waited three years for this, I have other options and I can wait another.
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Raise your standards, especially in yourself. Who gives a **** about your ex-oneitis? She is not special."She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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To steal a good man's line... Silly rabbit.
We all have a past we wish we could conquer... and for some of us, we can.
Ask yourself why... why you want to conquer your past? Is it a grudge?
There is no reason... it seems good on paper, and Lik may very well tell you thats the right thing to do. I'm saying: he's wrong.
Trust me... I know you're going to go through with this anyway... but I told you so.
Sigh...
I'm not focusing on this girl. I don't even like her. She's in the background - whenever she breaks up with her boyfriend, I'm going to make my move. Until then I'll keep pulling her in like I have been.
Would you turn down free play from an attractive girl who you get along well with?
AFK Protector
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Yeah, you just screwed yourself right there. lol.
Something tells me your ex-oneitis shouldn't have the ex- in front of it.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
i like you and i see that this might work as a way of conquering your past but
You want to sleep with a girl you don't even like - uh ha
I don't buy it - either your penis is dragging you around or you like her and are lying to yourself. both of which are bad.
I dont care if you want to bang out her brains and then film a snuff movie but you don't want to lie to yourself. hell if i had a chance with any of my old crushes id jump at it cos they were all fine women. I told myself i didnt like them anymore to get over them but as they were attractive id do them and therefore i do actually like them, as much as i tell myself otherwise. Some of them now, i would not touch with a barge pole because i no longer like them.
Sleep with her by all means but if you get on with her, let her know its gonna be a temporary thing (jesus- never thought id hear myself say that, as normally if its someone youv known for a long time it wont help you get her into bed). Just do not screw her for feelings of revenge, cos that sounds like something id do, but i know id feel totally guilty about it afterwards.
Neway do what you want and roll with the punches
She isn't big on committment either. She gets bored with her boyfriends after a few weeks or months and stays with them out of convenience.
I no longer develop crushes on women. I've "liked" one girl in the past 2 years. That said, I wouldn't ever intentionally do anything to hurt her.
So, it isn't about revenge. This will just be me and her doing what we should have done a long time ago. Fun for a summer, but nothing more.
AFK Protector
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Yeah, you're right Porky. I don't know jack **** about you. Maybe we can be best friends and change that.