"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm going full monk mode.

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Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
 

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Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
Basically I'm going to focus on building my life up - Public speaking, dancing (maybe). My social circles are currently not wide enough for me to be pulling p00n, albeit I have girls who are madly interested in me but they aren't up to my standard appearance wise. I won't settle for less, much less waste my time with broads I have no attraction to. Its kind of the catch 22 where I want to have dating experience but only with the girls I am attracted to. That's the hard part, I believe I can pull the girls I'm attracted to if I get into their social circle.
 

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OLD is for those who want to fvck the fvcked up. You'll get better quality women by meeting people through social circles and acquaintances.
"OLD is for those who want to fvck the fvcked up"

I like that! So true...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Basically I'm going to focus on building my life up - Public speaking, dancing (maybe). My social circles are currently not wide enough for me to be pulling p00n, albeit I have girls who are madly interested in me but they aren't up to my standard appearance wise. I won't settle for less, much less waste my time with broads I have no attraction to. Its kind of the catch 22 where I want to have dating experience but only with the girls I am attracted to. That's the hard part, I believe I can pull the girls I'm attracted to if I get into their social circle.
I hear you. Good idea.

Have you tried Toastmasters? Generally you get people who are interested in personal development, so
possibly a "better caliber" of person. It's opened a few doors for me.

Dansing I'd recommend too. I would say 90% of my social life has come from the people in Salsa and Bachata class. I've two seperate whatsapp groups: one for everyone in the class and a serperate one for a few lads....the rat pack if you will.

If you could stumble across a copy of social circle mastery by love systems.....it's class, talks specifically about social circle game. but even if you didn't want to game in your social circle the tips and tricks it gives for exploding your social circle is really good.

Monk Moke....self improvement too......read.....listen to audios.....the likes of Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn...
 

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I already joined Toastmasters...Going to start on my project in 2 weeks time (I already have my speech prepared) and there after doing a inspiration speech infront of 1200 people on Christmas day. Dancing I may take up latin ballroom, a couple of girls who are into me are dragging me to come join their club.
 

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Good luc
Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
Good luck. I am almost there myself.
 

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Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
It means working on myself only. Forsaking women for the betterment of myself. Working out my mental,physical and game issues.
 
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