"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm going full monk mode.

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Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
 

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Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
Basically I'm going to focus on building my life up - Public speaking, dancing (maybe). My social circles are currently not wide enough for me to be pulling p00n, albeit I have girls who are madly interested in me but they aren't up to my standard appearance wise. I won't settle for less, much less waste my time with broads I have no attraction to. Its kind of the catch 22 where I want to have dating experience but only with the girls I am attracted to. That's the hard part, I believe I can pull the girls I'm attracted to if I get into their social circle.
 

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OLD is for those who want to fvck the fvcked up. You'll get better quality women by meeting people through social circles and acquaintances.
"OLD is for those who want to fvck the fvcked up"

I like that! So true...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Basically I'm going to focus on building my life up - Public speaking, dancing (maybe). My social circles are currently not wide enough for me to be pulling p00n, albeit I have girls who are madly interested in me but they aren't up to my standard appearance wise. I won't settle for less, much less waste my time with broads I have no attraction to. Its kind of the catch 22 where I want to have dating experience but only with the girls I am attracted to. That's the hard part, I believe I can pull the girls I'm attracted to if I get into their social circle.
I hear you. Good idea.

Have you tried Toastmasters? Generally you get people who are interested in personal development, so
possibly a "better caliber" of person. It's opened a few doors for me.

Dansing I'd recommend too. I would say 90% of my social life has come from the people in Salsa and Bachata class. I've two seperate whatsapp groups: one for everyone in the class and a serperate one for a few lads....the rat pack if you will.

If you could stumble across a copy of social circle mastery by love systems.....it's class, talks specifically about social circle game. but even if you didn't want to game in your social circle the tips and tricks it gives for exploding your social circle is really good.

Monk Moke....self improvement too......read.....listen to audios.....the likes of Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn...
 

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I already joined Toastmasters...Going to start on my project in 2 weeks time (I already have my speech prepared) and there after doing a inspiration speech infront of 1200 people on Christmas day. Dancing I may take up latin ballroom, a couple of girls who are into me are dragging me to come join their club.
 

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Good luc
Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
Good luck. I am almost there myself.
 

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Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
It means working on myself only. Forsaking women for the betterment of myself. Working out my mental,physical and game issues.
 
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