"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm going full monk mode.

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Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
 

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Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
Basically I'm going to focus on building my life up - Public speaking, dancing (maybe). My social circles are currently not wide enough for me to be pulling p00n, albeit I have girls who are madly interested in me but they aren't up to my standard appearance wise. I won't settle for less, much less waste my time with broads I have no attraction to. Its kind of the catch 22 where I want to have dating experience but only with the girls I am attracted to. That's the hard part, I believe I can pull the girls I'm attracted to if I get into their social circle.
 

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OLD is for those who want to fvck the fvcked up. You'll get better quality women by meeting people through social circles and acquaintances.
"OLD is for those who want to fvck the fvcked up"

I like that! So true...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Basically I'm going to focus on building my life up - Public speaking, dancing (maybe). My social circles are currently not wide enough for me to be pulling p00n, albeit I have girls who are madly interested in me but they aren't up to my standard appearance wise. I won't settle for less, much less waste my time with broads I have no attraction to. Its kind of the catch 22 where I want to have dating experience but only with the girls I am attracted to. That's the hard part, I believe I can pull the girls I'm attracted to if I get into their social circle.
I hear you. Good idea.

Have you tried Toastmasters? Generally you get people who are interested in personal development, so
possibly a "better caliber" of person. It's opened a few doors for me.

Dansing I'd recommend too. I would say 90% of my social life has come from the people in Salsa and Bachata class. I've two seperate whatsapp groups: one for everyone in the class and a serperate one for a few lads....the rat pack if you will.

If you could stumble across a copy of social circle mastery by love systems.....it's class, talks specifically about social circle game. but even if you didn't want to game in your social circle the tips and tricks it gives for exploding your social circle is really good.

Monk Moke....self improvement too......read.....listen to audios.....the likes of Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn...
 

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I already joined Toastmasters...Going to start on my project in 2 weeks time (I already have my speech prepared) and there after doing a inspiration speech infront of 1200 people on Christmas day. Dancing I may take up latin ballroom, a couple of girls who are into me are dragging me to come join their club.
 

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Good luc
Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
Good luck. I am almost there myself.
 

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Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
It means working on myself only. Forsaking women for the betterment of myself. Working out my mental,physical and game issues.
 
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