"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm going full monk mode.

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Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
 

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Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
Basically I'm going to focus on building my life up - Public speaking, dancing (maybe). My social circles are currently not wide enough for me to be pulling p00n, albeit I have girls who are madly interested in me but they aren't up to my standard appearance wise. I won't settle for less, much less waste my time with broads I have no attraction to. Its kind of the catch 22 where I want to have dating experience but only with the girls I am attracted to. That's the hard part, I believe I can pull the girls I'm attracted to if I get into their social circle.
 

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OLD is for those who want to fvck the fvcked up. You'll get better quality women by meeting people through social circles and acquaintances.
"OLD is for those who want to fvck the fvcked up"

I like that! So true...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Basically I'm going to focus on building my life up - Public speaking, dancing (maybe). My social circles are currently not wide enough for me to be pulling p00n, albeit I have girls who are madly interested in me but they aren't up to my standard appearance wise. I won't settle for less, much less waste my time with broads I have no attraction to. Its kind of the catch 22 where I want to have dating experience but only with the girls I am attracted to. That's the hard part, I believe I can pull the girls I'm attracted to if I get into their social circle.
I hear you. Good idea.

Have you tried Toastmasters? Generally you get people who are interested in personal development, so
possibly a "better caliber" of person. It's opened a few doors for me.

Dansing I'd recommend too. I would say 90% of my social life has come from the people in Salsa and Bachata class. I've two seperate whatsapp groups: one for everyone in the class and a serperate one for a few lads....the rat pack if you will.

If you could stumble across a copy of social circle mastery by love systems.....it's class, talks specifically about social circle game. but even if you didn't want to game in your social circle the tips and tricks it gives for exploding your social circle is really good.

Monk Moke....self improvement too......read.....listen to audios.....the likes of Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn...
 

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I already joined Toastmasters...Going to start on my project in 2 weeks time (I already have my speech prepared) and there after doing a inspiration speech infront of 1200 people on Christmas day. Dancing I may take up latin ballroom, a couple of girls who are into me are dragging me to come join their club.
 

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Good luc
Went out with a girl from OKC, turned out to be a whale with a high-horse complex. I ended it promptly and went back home. I'm starting to think OLD is a trash-place for plates and those who agree to dates are either:
1. Looking for a free meal
2. Fvcked up beyond belief

That's it, I'm going full monk mode and do social circle dating instead.
Good luck. I am almost there myself.
 

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Describe what full monk mode means to you my good man...

I applaud you decision if it's for the right reasons and with the correct plan
It means working on myself only. Forsaking women for the betterment of myself. Working out my mental,physical and game issues.
 
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