Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I'm confused, really mixed signals.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
We were talking about this subject actually, and she asked, "You have it all figured out don't you?" and I said, "Whoah, whatcha talking about?" and she said, "Just the way you carry yourself. It's like you've got life all figured out. " and i said, "I like to think I do, but I don't have all the answers." and she replied with, "Seems like you do
" I just stopped texting after that. I don't understand why I attract so many people with problems. Broken people come to me and expect me to fix them but i can't. It makes me feel even worse too.
This girl is not worth it, and i'm just going to delete her number probably. She can contact me if she wants
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's kinda cynical actually... Something which has incredible value, as if its unreachable, loses all its value once obtained.
Sometimes you have to realise though, that you actually did stumble upon something with true value. Anyhow that's up to you to decide when something is really worth the effort.
That being said, i want to add: good job, the girl's pedastal is completly smashed
. That's a big step, congratsJokerlsk said:We were talking about this subject actually, and she asked, "You have it all figured out don't you?" and I said, "Whoah, whatcha talking about?" and she said, "Just the way you carry yourself. It's like you've got life all figured out. " and i said, "I like to think I do, but I don't have all the answers." and she replied with, "Seems like you do
I've seen girls try to play this game before when I was in high school. They act dumb, worthless, ect, because they think that's what we want ... Someone who is subordinate, inferior (intellectually, socially, whatever) and some guys do want that. She is trying to build you up and show you how amazing she thinks you are and blah blah.. You gotta test it for yourself to see if that is how she really sees herself or if she's just playing the part. If she is for real, then I suggest you run.
"Take a hint"
She's telling you to take the hints she's giving you. Marrying you on facebook? Come on! I didn't see this is as a curveball; it's a green light.
As far as taking her out with your friends, sure, she might have a good time (you'll be risking the possibility that she will see you as only a friend in the future), but taking her out on a one on one date will make you boyfriend material in her eyes, if you aren't already.
I've always been that way with everything. I can't stick with anything. It's weird, and I don't know why. maybe it's my way of handling things.... But you're right Credos. You really made me think about who I am and what I want