"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I'm confused, really mixed signals.
- Thread starter Jokerlsk
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
We were talking about this subject actually, and she asked, "You have it all figured out don't you?" and I said, "Whoah, whatcha talking about?" and she said, "Just the way you carry yourself. It's like you've got life all figured out. " and i said, "I like to think I do, but I don't have all the answers." and she replied with, "Seems like you do
" I just stopped texting after that. I don't understand why I attract so many people with problems. Broken people come to me and expect me to fix them but i can't. It makes me feel even worse too.
This girl is not worth it, and i'm just going to delete her number probably. She can contact me if she wants
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It's kinda cynical actually... Something which has incredible value, as if its unreachable, loses all its value once obtained.
Sometimes you have to realise though, that you actually did stumble upon something with true value. Anyhow that's up to you to decide when something is really worth the effort.
That being said, i want to add: good job, the girl's pedastal is completly smashed
. That's a big step, congratsJokerlsk said:We were talking about this subject actually, and she asked, "You have it all figured out don't you?" and I said, "Whoah, whatcha talking about?" and she said, "Just the way you carry yourself. It's like you've got life all figured out. " and i said, "I like to think I do, but I don't have all the answers." and she replied with, "Seems like you do
I've seen girls try to play this game before when I was in high school. They act dumb, worthless, ect, because they think that's what we want ... Someone who is subordinate, inferior (intellectually, socially, whatever) and some guys do want that. She is trying to build you up and show you how amazing she thinks you are and blah blah.. You gotta test it for yourself to see if that is how she really sees herself or if she's just playing the part. If she is for real, then I suggest you run.
"Take a hint"
She's telling you to take the hints she's giving you. Marrying you on facebook? Come on! I didn't see this is as a curveball; it's a green light.
As far as taking her out with your friends, sure, she might have a good time (you'll be risking the possibility that she will see you as only a friend in the future), but taking her out on a one on one date will make you boyfriend material in her eyes, if you aren't already.
I've always been that way with everything. I can't stick with anything. It's weird, and I don't know why. maybe it's my way of handling things.... But you're right Credos. You really made me think about who I am and what I want