"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm confused, really mixed signals.
- Thread starter Jokerlsk
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
We were talking about this subject actually, and she asked, "You have it all figured out don't you?" and I said, "Whoah, whatcha talking about?" and she said, "Just the way you carry yourself. It's like you've got life all figured out. " and i said, "I like to think I do, but I don't have all the answers." and she replied with, "Seems like you do
" I just stopped texting after that. I don't understand why I attract so many people with problems. Broken people come to me and expect me to fix them but i can't. It makes me feel even worse too.
This girl is not worth it, and i'm just going to delete her number probably. She can contact me if she wants
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's kinda cynical actually... Something which has incredible value, as if its unreachable, loses all its value once obtained.
Sometimes you have to realise though, that you actually did stumble upon something with true value. Anyhow that's up to you to decide when something is really worth the effort.
That being said, i want to add: good job, the girl's pedastal is completly smashed
. That's a big step, congratsJokerlsk said:We were talking about this subject actually, and she asked, "You have it all figured out don't you?" and I said, "Whoah, whatcha talking about?" and she said, "Just the way you carry yourself. It's like you've got life all figured out. " and i said, "I like to think I do, but I don't have all the answers." and she replied with, "Seems like you do
I've seen girls try to play this game before when I was in high school. They act dumb, worthless, ect, because they think that's what we want ... Someone who is subordinate, inferior (intellectually, socially, whatever) and some guys do want that. She is trying to build you up and show you how amazing she thinks you are and blah blah.. You gotta test it for yourself to see if that is how she really sees herself or if she's just playing the part. If she is for real, then I suggest you run.
"Take a hint"
She's telling you to take the hints she's giving you. Marrying you on facebook? Come on! I didn't see this is as a curveball; it's a green light.
As far as taking her out with your friends, sure, she might have a good time (you'll be risking the possibility that she will see you as only a friend in the future), but taking her out on a one on one date will make you boyfriend material in her eyes, if you aren't already.
I've always been that way with everything. I can't stick with anything. It's weird, and I don't know why. maybe it's my way of handling things.... But you're right Credos. You really made me think about who I am and what I want