I just started seeing a new girl. Cool girl, fun to hang out with, etc. only problem is im 21 and about to graduate college and shes 17 and is a senior in high school. can a relationship like that work? she plans on going to college in the city i live in so distance wouldnt be an issue. oh and in case youre wondering, 17 is the legal age in the state i live in haha.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm 21, she's 17. Can it work?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Chickfight
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Sure, it can work. It depends on your chemistry and compatibility. The chances are low, not because of age, just because the chances always are low. I say go for it and have fun with it, but don't try to turn it into anything serious, because she's only 17 and also you're only 21.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Who cares? Have fun with the girl and just do it.
What's the rush? Your biological clock is ticking?
What's the rush? Your biological clock is ticking?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
HELL NO. i would never be serious with a girl under 20. my limit is at least 23 years old. anything younger i would not take serious. girls that young do not want to commit and even if they do it NEVER lasts. fuk buddy man!!!
who said i was making it about me? i was giving him an opinion on having relationships with a young girl. she's 17 for christ sakes! have some fun with her, don't get serious... she's way too young. it might work, but it won't last. that sh1t is very rare.lili19771 said:
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Who cares?
But heres a tip. Don't think about getting into a relationship anytime soon.
But heres a tip. Don't think about getting into a relationship anytime soon.
I say it depends on what your goals are. It's just too hard to say how mature and committed she'll be. None the less, don't look at it too deep. Just have fun for now. If it lasts long enough and there's enough investment from both parties THEN you can take things more seriously.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The point is, girls at that age have hectic hormones, this is a fact.
What they like one month will differ the next month, and 90% of 17 year old girls are very fickle...
Have fun, BUT protect your heart. It's far too easy for a man to fall in love.
What they like one month will differ the next month, and 90% of 17 year old girls are very fickle...
Have fun, BUT protect your heart. It's far too easy for a man to fall in love.