gspshields2
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I need to find a good social circle. The problem is that I don't really have a social circle right now, just individual friends. Any suggestions?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ignored by all, lol - need a social circle
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
kentgraham10
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Social circles suck. I am part of a few, one that is terrible for social gatherings, another that is really good for that kind of stuff but we rarely meet. Then there are some others that stay where they are, like the gym group, college group, etc.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
PapiChulo
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I had a few and they all sucked in terms of meeting women, plus, other guys were jealous of me and ****-blocking hard, keeping women away from me. There are some that have only average women in them. I realize that one need a circle of cool dudes who associate with attractive women. I would start with finding good mates first, the kind with whom you can go on adventures and that isn't far off from what you are.
thevilittletroll
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find a cool bar or pub close to your house and go there for happy hour every day. you'll become a regular, get to know all the bartenders, then just meet all the other regulars there. after about a week, you'll know who they are.
gspshields2
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there is no social circle at work,
only old people are here, thats the problem,
and the cool kids from highschool are the only ones i know but they arent cool with me
only old people are here, thats the problem,
and the cool kids from highschool are the only ones i know but they arent cool with me
loveshogun
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You're in high school? This explains everything.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
gspshields2
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no im not in highschool, im saying the cool kids i KNEW FROM highschool. they are the only alpha males i know. ive been out of school for some time, im in my mid twenties. im working.loveshogun said:You're in high school? This explains everything.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
to me, friendships start from common interests. Specifically, I have made my social circles through my hockey, and TAing in college. I maintain several social circles, but stick with the same one from when I graduated college. Its not as easy when you are working full time to get a social group since everyone is married, has kids and is doing their own thing. If i had to start over, I'd probably join some athletic clubs including: hockey, running, biking, and than try to meet women in a few random yoga classes ( those things will kill you). The first one is my passion, and there aren't many women in that, but the others there certainly are.
gspshields2
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haha very funnyHakuna said:Google search for social circles nearby your zip code
thevilittletroll
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google search co-ed sports clubs in your area. you'll find everything from softball, kickball, tennis, volleyball, soccer, all kinds of stuff. easy to meet single girls and make new guy friends.