gspshields2
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I need to find a good social circle. The problem is that I don't really have a social circle right now, just individual friends. Any suggestions?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
no im not in highschool, im saying the cool kids i KNEW FROM highschool. they are the only alpha males i know. ive been out of school for some time, im in my mid twenties. im working.loveshogun said:You're in high school? This explains everything.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
haha very funnyHakuna said:Google search for social circles nearby your zip code