gspshields2
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I need to find a good social circle. The problem is that I don't really have a social circle right now, just individual friends. Any suggestions?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Ignored by all, lol - need a social circle
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
kentgraham10
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Social circles suck. I am part of a few, one that is terrible for social gatherings, another that is really good for that kind of stuff but we rarely meet. Then there are some others that stay where they are, like the gym group, college group, etc.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
PapiChulo
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I had a few and they all sucked in terms of meeting women, plus, other guys were jealous of me and ****-blocking hard, keeping women away from me. There are some that have only average women in them. I realize that one need a circle of cool dudes who associate with attractive women. I would start with finding good mates first, the kind with whom you can go on adventures and that isn't far off from what you are.
thevilittletroll
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find a cool bar or pub close to your house and go there for happy hour every day. you'll become a regular, get to know all the bartenders, then just meet all the other regulars there. after about a week, you'll know who they are.
gspshields2
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there is no social circle at work,
only old people are here, thats the problem,
and the cool kids from highschool are the only ones i know but they arent cool with me
only old people are here, thats the problem,
and the cool kids from highschool are the only ones i know but they arent cool with me
loveshogun
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You're in high school? This explains everything.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
gspshields2
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no im not in highschool, im saying the cool kids i KNEW FROM highschool. they are the only alpha males i know. ive been out of school for some time, im in my mid twenties. im working.loveshogun said:You're in high school? This explains everything.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
to me, friendships start from common interests. Specifically, I have made my social circles through my hockey, and TAing in college. I maintain several social circles, but stick with the same one from when I graduated college. Its not as easy when you are working full time to get a social group since everyone is married, has kids and is doing their own thing. If i had to start over, I'd probably join some athletic clubs including: hockey, running, biking, and than try to meet women in a few random yoga classes ( those things will kill you). The first one is my passion, and there aren't many women in that, but the others there certainly are.
gspshields2
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haha very funnyHakuna said:Google search for social circles nearby your zip code
thevilittletroll
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google search co-ed sports clubs in your area. you'll find everything from softball, kickball, tennis, volleyball, soccer, all kinds of stuff. easy to meet single girls and make new guy friends.