gspshields2
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I need to find a good social circle. The problem is that I don't really have a social circle right now, just individual friends. Any suggestions?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ignored by all, lol - need a social circle
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
kentgraham10
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Social circles suck. I am part of a few, one that is terrible for social gatherings, another that is really good for that kind of stuff but we rarely meet. Then there are some others that stay where they are, like the gym group, college group, etc.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PapiChulo
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I had a few and they all sucked in terms of meeting women, plus, other guys were jealous of me and ****-blocking hard, keeping women away from me. There are some that have only average women in them. I realize that one need a circle of cool dudes who associate with attractive women. I would start with finding good mates first, the kind with whom you can go on adventures and that isn't far off from what you are.
thevilittletroll
Senior Don Juan
find a cool bar or pub close to your house and go there for happy hour every day. you'll become a regular, get to know all the bartenders, then just meet all the other regulars there. after about a week, you'll know who they are.
gspshields2
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there is no social circle at work,
only old people are here, thats the problem,
and the cool kids from highschool are the only ones i know but they arent cool with me
only old people are here, thats the problem,
and the cool kids from highschool are the only ones i know but they arent cool with me
loveshogun
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You're in high school? This explains everything.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
gspshields2
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no im not in highschool, im saying the cool kids i KNEW FROM highschool. they are the only alpha males i know. ive been out of school for some time, im in my mid twenties. im working.loveshogun said:You're in high school? This explains everything.
Being popular in high school is like winning the prize in a Crackerjack box - you're a big fish in a small pond.
I know this, because I was well-liked in high school. After I learned to stop being a little b*tch about "not having friends," anyway. I translated that to the rest of my life as I continued to grow.
Just focus on schoolwork, your hobbies, and the things you like to do, dude. You're in frickin' high school. What do you expect? Drug-fueled orgies? You won't get those 'til at least college.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
to me, friendships start from common interests. Specifically, I have made my social circles through my hockey, and TAing in college. I maintain several social circles, but stick with the same one from when I graduated college. Its not as easy when you are working full time to get a social group since everyone is married, has kids and is doing their own thing. If i had to start over, I'd probably join some athletic clubs including: hockey, running, biking, and than try to meet women in a few random yoga classes ( those things will kill you). The first one is my passion, and there aren't many women in that, but the others there certainly are.
gspshields2
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haha very funnyHakuna said:Google search for social circles nearby your zip code
thevilittletroll
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google search co-ed sports clubs in your area. you'll find everything from softball, kickball, tennis, volleyball, soccer, all kinds of stuff. easy to meet single girls and make new guy friends.