frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
why do most of you want more than a piece of arse???
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
P.S. I am sure this doesn't apply to you and you and your girlfriend will stay together forever and have many fat children.
:crackup:Originally posted by frivolousz21
fat kids?
considering neither of us are fat?
is that ur pathetic attempt to put me down...when have I talked to you?
in real life you wouldnt have no nuts to talk to me like this.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
did you ever read my first reply?Originally posted by frivolousz21
if ur just messing around thats cool.
I take most things to offense here..because most people here try to boost there egos off of me.
pretty sad.
but I am serious on the question....why cant people accept some women are great..and make great partners....
thats why 98 peercent of guys are here...to get good with women..so they can keep a ltr when they are ready
so you'd stay loyal and commited and live the rest of your life with a girl even if you are not in love with her anymore?Originally posted by frivolousz21
I agree that he inlove part wont last forever.
maybe bits and pieces of it will arrise here and there.
but thats why loyalty and commitment become so important.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm so looking forward to in a couple of months when you get your ass dumped and come crying back.
I guess you just need to experience all this for yourself, dude...Originally posted by frivolousz21
If I loved her yes..if she made me happy yes.....I will try all I can to make it work.
but I doubt everyday I will feel the same deep connection I feel now..because of time, repsonsibilities, kids...but im sure at times we would spark that fire that burns now
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
im not really labeling you AFC, thats the other dudes on here.. Im labeling you slightly confused and blinded by the chemical reaction you're experiencing.Originally posted by frivolousz21
i wont be one of those guys.
but if I tell you Egoist...that I am in love and care deeply for her.
I am labled and afc.
which confuses me..oh well