If you dont have emotions you win

[Blacksheep]

What Im learning lately is that, the less you show or have emotions, more woman will desire you.

I was used to think that genuine desire we should share feelings and stuffs, but I was wrong.

And it seems its some kind of sh1t test. They try to see how emotional you are... If you show any, you lose the game.

If you dont show any emotions, or act like a cold person, they got crazy.

Does it makes sense?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

If you have control over your emotions you win

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you have no emotions you are a sociopath.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

What Im learning lately is that, the less you show or have emotions, more woman will desire you.

I was used to think that genuine desire we should share feelings and stuffs, but I was wrong.

And it seems its some kind of sh1t test. They try to see how emotional you are... If you show any, you lose the game.

If you dont show any emotions, or act like a cold person, they got crazy.

Does it makes sense?

Correct. Been on both sides of it. Nothing more pathetic than losing control of emotions. That's the woman's cue to pull rank. Even if she's sympathetic in the moment, your cojones are hers.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Displaying vulnerability of any kind is an attraction killer with women.

 

[logicallefty]

Men having emotions is fine, but men letting them control him is not.

I am seeing this now with my ex wife I just got a divorce from earlier this year. I kept my frame mostly with her throughout the divorce process but did slip a few times and let my emotions come out too much. Each time I did that all she did was use them against me and attack me harder. She really went for my throat emotionally and attacked some areas she knows I am sensitive about.

I have now reached the point where I have no more emotional attachment to her. I don't hate her but want no more to do with her. The divorce is final. I have her blocked most places but she sent me 4 x Emails over the past month rambling about all the mistakes I made in the marriage. I didn't reply to the first three. Finally, on the 4th one today, I finally responded "I hope you are doing well but it's time to move on. Please stop Emailing me". What did she do? Send me another Email babbling some more. Said "Go have fun fvcking all your women in Florida. I am not dating I am going to work on myself" bla bla bla.. I can just tell that my brief and aloof response "I hope you are doing well but it's time to move on. Please stop Emailing me" really got under her skin.

Translation, I care LESS so she cares MORE. It wasn't that way a few months ago.

 

[Smok1nAce]

know what your doing and why you doing it.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Keyword isn't Emotion: its "CARE"

Truth is guys who got other sht they prioritize just don't care too much about women. We are fine getting pu55y and having alot of attention that we don't crave or require too much else from women.. and as a byproduct of just having a life, a personality and being cool ass alpha males, women give us more attention and time than we really need. In my life, Ihad to workou tways to not allow women to have too much of my attention, jus so i can split my attention between multiple women. That is the balancing act, that is spinning plates.

1. I mean imagine how much care you can have for a woman when you're focused on 1) your hobbies 2) your friends 3) your own personal progress in life/financial goals/personal goals 3) your family 4) the multiple girls you talk to /sleep with
   
   
2. Giving women just the right amount of care and attention (especially the most concentrated form: Sex) is how to get 'em hooked.
   
   
3. Guys who aren't awlays "emotionally available" aren't emotionless. They simply care more about other things.

 

[TheEveningChronograph]

Indifference is rapidly becoming "The shlt"

 

[tightgrp]

If you have control over your emotions you win

In a many ways

 

[tightgrp]

If you have no emotions you are a sociopath.

A sliding scale for most.

 

[manfrombelow]

This is called control of our own emotions, one of the hardest, if not the hardest, skill to master. But the reward is worth it.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

1. Guys who aren't awlays "emotionally available" aren't emotionless. They simply care more about other things.

This.
I'm too fvcking busy to care for anything outside my focus area of building what I want and I don't give a flying fvck what bytches feel or think. That is their issue, not mine.

 

[Gedmun]

INTJ personality type here and so I must be kicking arse then

 

[Rainman4707]

What Im learning lately is that, the less you show or have emotions, more woman will desire you.

I was used to think that genuine desire we should share feelings and stuffs, but I was wrong.

And it seems its some kind of sh1t test. They try to see how emotional you are... If you show any, you lose the game.

If you dont show any emotions, or act like a cold person, they got crazy.

Does it makes sense?

I understand and you do have . I used to be far to cold though.

I reconmmend reading coey waynes 3% men. I think he basically says that you need to be open with your girl.

In dating stage...yeah play it cool.

If you wanna keep a girl around she has to know you care about her. You have to open up so she can see who you are. She needs to feel she can trust you and that she is safe with you.

 

[Bokanovsky]

What Im learning lately is that, the less you show or have emotions, more woman will desire you.

I was used to think that genuine desire we should share feelings and stuffs, but I was wrong.

And it seems its some kind of sh1t test. They try to see how emotional you are... If you show any, you lose the game.

If you dont show any emotions, or act like a cold person, they got crazy.

Does it makes sense?

There's a difference between "being emotional" and having emotions. Being a hysterical crybaby is unattractive. Being an emotionless robot is also unattractive. It's okay to show emotions (both positive and negative) provided the circumstances warrant it and you don't lose control of yourself.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Before being men, we are human.

I think I know what you're driving at and you are right. However, you might have phrased it incorrectly. Do not overly show emotions and you will be seen as centered/leveled, stable, mature, etc, etc. Men should have a firm control over their emotions but men DO have emotions.

The problem is with men that (like most modern adults) are children with adult bodies. They can't regulate their emotions. Those emotions are often vomited into the world. And we expect the world to cater to those emotions. That is one of the problems in modern society.

Like I said in the beginning, before being men we are human. Wise and mature men have developed mastery of expressing and showing their emotions.

 

[Gamisch]

There's a place and time for every emotion. If she pisses you off she pisses you off. Period. What else you gonna do besides showing her? You gonna " play aloof"? .


If you are passionate about life in general your emotions might also be passionate. That's ofcourse a personal matter.

I get the message though. I used to believe this for a while, but I stepped away from that mentality. If I feel like xyz I will let it be known.

That's why you might see a dude with a " woman 3 points above his SMV "; he has personality and perhaps knows how to feck her. Goes hand in hand most of the time...

 

[Gamisch]

There's a place and time for every emotion. If she pisses you off she pisses you off. Period. What else you gonna do besides showing her? You gonna " play aloof"? .


If you are passionate about life in general your emotions might also be passionate. That's ofcourse a personal matter.

I get the message though. I used to believe this for a while, but I stepped away from that mentality. If I feel like xyz I will let it be known.

That's why you might see a dude with a " woman 3 points above his SMV "; he has personality and perhaps knows how to feck her. Goes hand in hand most of the time...

This is why men who operate from a solely theoretical RP level feel like they're being tested all the time . They actually are.

A woman will start to poke you to see if you are human. Eventually it will start to look like you are a pushover, a soft man. A man who doesn't have principles. Its not hard to get a woman, the art is to actually keep her.

Especially nowadays, now dating is seemingly so tough , you better be the absolute best and wisest version of YOURSELF .

Its like those Megaman games from back then: sometimes you needed a specific weapon to beat a specific boss. Same with anger, humor ect. Sometimes you need a specific emotion to deal with a specific situation/ woman.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi BlackSheep,
You have it right....'Bout 12 years ago I had a Guy living with me for Company....and he really was the Bees Knees,tall,powerful physique,good looking and charming to boot....This Guy was the greatest seducer I have ever met,and I am assured a wonderful Lover,but with the heart of a Polar Bear....One morning as I was enjoying my breakfast his conquest from the previous night out,was leaving.She was a very attractive if unsure young Woman,couldn't help but hear his parting words,"Well off you go,the Bus stop is down there,you can't miss it "....Now I live in a semi rural area and Buses are maybe a two hourly thing at best,so I quietly went out and drove down the Road picked her up and took her to Town....When I got back he was quite surprised,even a bit annoyed,"what did you go and do that for?she wasn't even a good fvuck",Says it all...To be a really successful Don Juan in this World you needs be a social phsychopath.