"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you don't have a HB8+ then you are not a DJ

If you are a DJ, then the girl has to be hot and have a good personality too. HB8+


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By HB8+, I don't mean looks averaged with personality, I mean BOTH an 8+ in looks and an 8+ in personality. A top quality find. If you are a real DJ, shouldn't you be able to get a quality hot girl?

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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IsiMan84

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Being a DJ is not just about "getting hot girls." It's about getting your own shít straight and doing what's right for yourself. Then the girls will follow. And even then, the rating system is so subjective and everybody has their own tastes. Your HB8 could be another guy's UG4. If you get a girl and you are happy with yourself and your life then that is what matters.
 

insidious

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C'mon guy. HB8???
WTF?
You're turning this into a physical science, and you're talking men's and women's hearts and that strange and mysterious quality called attraction.

I think the true mark of a DJ is a man who gets a women HE wants, whether she be HB2 or HB10. It's about your choice and your ability to act on your desires. And just cause a girl is an HB2 doesn't mean she is super attainable. An HB2 chick with a good sense of self-worth and confidence (yes, it's possible) won't be had an easier than an HB10 who is plagued with self-doubt.

This kind of thinking belongs in the High School forum! :cheer:
 

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insidious said:
I think the true mark of a DJ is a man who gets a women HE wants, whether she be HB2 or HB10. It's about your choice and your ability to act on your desires.
:up: Words to live by.
 

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grow up
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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insidious said:
C'mon guy. HB8???
I think the true mark of a DJ is a man who gets a women HE wants, whether she be HB2 or HB10.
I know it's about what HE wants and I know the scale is subjective. My question is if a true dj should get the HB8 that HE wants. If he settles for an HB2 that's fine, but don't tell me he wouldn't rather have a girl with a similar personality that looks like an HB8.
 

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And the question of subjectivity still applies. If she's an HB8 in his eyes, then who is going to change that?
 
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