TheWayOfAllFlesh
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It's a good thing right?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Before I opine on this...cky said:Absolutely. You can even use her friend to get to her as long as she doesn't know. Or if she likes you, but you happen to move into the friend zone, you can use her in a way she knows as long as you're sure she won't tell. Girls make the best wingmen if you can trust them, speaking from my own experience.![]()
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Link slash add?OTB said:Hahaha, no doubt!
I'm actually gonna put it up under my "favorite quotes" section on my Facebook page :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
Sorry about that bro!TheWayOfAllFlesh said:cheers guys...but back to my question please
cheers haha. dont get distracted next timeOTB said:Sorry about that bro!![]()
Back to your question....
Looking at it from the simple perspective that the fact that her best friend or "biffel" added you shows that you have instilled such a high level of interest in your girl of choice, that she couldn't help herself to NOT tell her friends about you.....
(But keep in mind not to over-analyze a girl's behavior over Myspace...)
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
haha nice mate i never saw it that way lolOTB said:Just out of curiosity, what is your username suppose to mean?
Care to enlighten me...![]()
And which album may that be? ------> I can already guess the title of it, hahahaTheWayOfAllFlesh said:haha nice mate i never saw it that way lol
nothing major though. simply the name of the last album i downloaded haha
i know realise how other people see it though lol
OTB said:And which album may that be? ------> I can already guess the title of it, hahaha
The album's by who???.......
Is this it?TheWayOfAllFlesh said:Gojira.
French Progressive Death Metal Band
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Pretty fookin' good? Is that it?OTB said:Is this it?
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=4552860
Sounds pretty fvckin' good -----> especially their use of vocoders
Although, I'm usually only into Power Metal![]()
Yep, that's it brother!TheWayOfAllFlesh said:Pretty fookin' good? Is that it?![]()
Is that automatically implying that Power Metal fans aren't usually into "the ladies"? :crackup:TheWayOfAllFlesh said:nice to see some power metal fans getting into the ladies.
Well, the girls that I usually go after don't think much of my tastes...TheWayOfAllFlesh said:What do they say about your tastes?
I've managed to get an indie girl onto The Black Dahlia Murder before haha XD
its mingled in with the scene which is unfortunate. they can be slightly classified as deathcore but i'd say they have more of a thrashy tinge about them with a wee bit of melodic death metal.OTB said:And what exactly is the Black Dahlia Murder?
Isn't it part of that new "deathcore" sh!t out there?![]()