Ringleader41
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Am i her top plate pretty much
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
U trolln brahPairPlusRoyalFlush said:Well, it depends. You could still be the safe, dependable guy while she chases after the bad boy that will only give her Wednesday night lol.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well, you were the one who asked if you were the top plate.Ringleader41 said:Lol not all girls are just total slut bags. Im not saying your wrong but you shouldnt have such a negative perception. Theres much more to wats between us. I understand though, if I felt like I was being played I would know. I am kind of skeptical though
Ya hes trying to make me feel like shvt lol. Yall are too negativezekko said:Well, you were the one who asked if you were the top plate.
PairPlusRoyalFlush just gave a possible alternate scenario, he didn't say that was definitely what was going on.
I second this. If you think girls with that mentality are "total slut bags" you're in for a rough ride, because most do. That's just the way it isPairPlusRoyalFlush said:Says the guy with red k :crackup: No, its from experience. She likes you better than she likes girls night out, thats all you know for sure. I know ive been in a situation where I was Friday, Saturday, vacations, whatever, but there was this Cop that worked nightshift that she was banging on the side and to be honest the unatainable guy that gets sex for free with no bs is the top plate, period. If the girl is spinning plates at all(i.e. banging or making out with multiple guys) you're never in good shape.
Female game, hook line and sinker. Enjoy it while it lastsRingleader41 said:Shes one of those girls that take it slow. She told me she wants to get to know me more.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
what do u mean byt this? is th OP getting played then?casaanova said:I second this. If you think girls with that mentality are "total slut bags" you're in for a rough ride, because most do. That's just the way it is
Female game, hook line and sinker. Enjoy it while it lasts
Nah I wouldn't say he's getting "played", since all fb relationships inevitably end anyway, but if she's saying she wants to take it slow, she's campaigning for a relationship and if that doesn't happen she's gonna cut it off sooner than normal - it won't last as long as it would if they were on the same pagelamobatsman said:what do u mean byt this? is th OP getting played then?
and i love the comment just cos shes not a slut to you doesnt mean shes not a slut to everyone else
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I hope your major has nothing to do with English, math or science. You type and think like a chimpanzee. She's spinning plates, you're chasing her, end of story. Now go troll elsewhere.Ringleader41 said:I dont type well on an iphone, and english is not my major phvcker.
Finance phaggotJohnChops said:I hope your major has nothing to do with English, math or science. You type and think like a chimpanzee. She's spinning plates, you're chasing her, end of story. Now go troll elsewhere.
Not liking this part. IME, that always translated to low interest, seeking other options, keeping you as a back-up / doormat, etc. Pay close attention to her interest in you. If she acts too friendly, says she's not ready, confused / unsure, not looking for a relationship, LJBF, etc, and doesn't act sexual or show romantic interest - get out. Watch her actions throughout all of this. Especially how she reacts to kissing, dating, close physical contact, etc. And if she's eager to see you, thinking about you, contacting you, etc.Ringleader41 said:Shes one of those girls that take it slow. She told me she wants to get to know me more. Shes been more sexual with me though. How i handle this?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.