Ringleader41
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Am i her top plate pretty much
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
U trolln brahPairPlusRoyalFlush said:Well, it depends. You could still be the safe, dependable guy while she chases after the bad boy that will only give her Wednesday night lol.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well, you were the one who asked if you were the top plate.Ringleader41 said:Lol not all girls are just total slut bags. Im not saying your wrong but you shouldnt have such a negative perception. Theres much more to wats between us. I understand though, if I felt like I was being played I would know. I am kind of skeptical though
Ya hes trying to make me feel like shvt lol. Yall are too negativezekko said:Well, you were the one who asked if you were the top plate.
PairPlusRoyalFlush just gave a possible alternate scenario, he didn't say that was definitely what was going on.
I second this. If you think girls with that mentality are "total slut bags" you're in for a rough ride, because most do. That's just the way it isPairPlusRoyalFlush said:Says the guy with red k :crackup: No, its from experience. She likes you better than she likes girls night out, thats all you know for sure. I know ive been in a situation where I was Friday, Saturday, vacations, whatever, but there was this Cop that worked nightshift that she was banging on the side and to be honest the unatainable guy that gets sex for free with no bs is the top plate, period. If the girl is spinning plates at all(i.e. banging or making out with multiple guys) you're never in good shape.
Female game, hook line and sinker. Enjoy it while it lastsRingleader41 said:Shes one of those girls that take it slow. She told me she wants to get to know me more.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
what do u mean byt this? is th OP getting played then?casaanova said:I second this. If you think girls with that mentality are "total slut bags" you're in for a rough ride, because most do. That's just the way it is
Female game, hook line and sinker. Enjoy it while it lasts
Nah I wouldn't say he's getting "played", since all fb relationships inevitably end anyway, but if she's saying she wants to take it slow, she's campaigning for a relationship and if that doesn't happen she's gonna cut it off sooner than normal - it won't last as long as it would if they were on the same pagelamobatsman said:what do u mean byt this? is th OP getting played then?
and i love the comment just cos shes not a slut to you doesnt mean shes not a slut to everyone else
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I hope your major has nothing to do with English, math or science. You type and think like a chimpanzee. She's spinning plates, you're chasing her, end of story. Now go troll elsewhere.Ringleader41 said:I dont type well on an iphone, and english is not my major phvcker.
Finance phaggotJohnChops said:I hope your major has nothing to do with English, math or science. You type and think like a chimpanzee. She's spinning plates, you're chasing her, end of story. Now go troll elsewhere.
Not liking this part. IME, that always translated to low interest, seeking other options, keeping you as a back-up / doormat, etc. Pay close attention to her interest in you. If she acts too friendly, says she's not ready, confused / unsure, not looking for a relationship, LJBF, etc, and doesn't act sexual or show romantic interest - get out. Watch her actions throughout all of this. Especially how she reacts to kissing, dating, close physical contact, etc. And if she's eager to see you, thinking about you, contacting you, etc.Ringleader41 said:Shes one of those girls that take it slow. She told me she wants to get to know me more. Shes been more sexual with me though. How i handle this?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.