Ringleader41
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Am i her top plate pretty much
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
U trolln brahPairPlusRoyalFlush said:Well, it depends. You could still be the safe, dependable guy while she chases after the bad boy that will only give her Wednesday night lol.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well, you were the one who asked if you were the top plate.Ringleader41 said:Lol not all girls are just total slut bags. Im not saying your wrong but you shouldnt have such a negative perception. Theres much more to wats between us. I understand though, if I felt like I was being played I would know. I am kind of skeptical though
Ya hes trying to make me feel like shvt lol. Yall are too negativezekko said:Well, you were the one who asked if you were the top plate.
PairPlusRoyalFlush just gave a possible alternate scenario, he didn't say that was definitely what was going on.
I second this. If you think girls with that mentality are "total slut bags" you're in for a rough ride, because most do. That's just the way it isPairPlusRoyalFlush said:Says the guy with red k :crackup: No, its from experience. She likes you better than she likes girls night out, thats all you know for sure. I know ive been in a situation where I was Friday, Saturday, vacations, whatever, but there was this Cop that worked nightshift that she was banging on the side and to be honest the unatainable guy that gets sex for free with no bs is the top plate, period. If the girl is spinning plates at all(i.e. banging or making out with multiple guys) you're never in good shape.
Female game, hook line and sinker. Enjoy it while it lastsRingleader41 said:Shes one of those girls that take it slow. She told me she wants to get to know me more.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
what do u mean byt this? is th OP getting played then?casaanova said:I second this. If you think girls with that mentality are "total slut bags" you're in for a rough ride, because most do. That's just the way it is
Female game, hook line and sinker. Enjoy it while it lasts
Nah I wouldn't say he's getting "played", since all fb relationships inevitably end anyway, but if she's saying she wants to take it slow, she's campaigning for a relationship and if that doesn't happen she's gonna cut it off sooner than normal - it won't last as long as it would if they were on the same pagelamobatsman said:what do u mean byt this? is th OP getting played then?
and i love the comment just cos shes not a slut to you doesnt mean shes not a slut to everyone else
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I hope your major has nothing to do with English, math or science. You type and think like a chimpanzee. She's spinning plates, you're chasing her, end of story. Now go troll elsewhere.Ringleader41 said:I dont type well on an iphone, and english is not my major phvcker.
Finance phaggotJohnChops said:I hope your major has nothing to do with English, math or science. You type and think like a chimpanzee. She's spinning plates, you're chasing her, end of story. Now go troll elsewhere.
Not liking this part. IME, that always translated to low interest, seeking other options, keeping you as a back-up / doormat, etc. Pay close attention to her interest in you. If she acts too friendly, says she's not ready, confused / unsure, not looking for a relationship, LJBF, etc, and doesn't act sexual or show romantic interest - get out. Watch her actions throughout all of this. Especially how she reacts to kissing, dating, close physical contact, etc. And if she's eager to see you, thinking about you, contacting you, etc.Ringleader41 said:Shes one of those girls that take it slow. She told me she wants to get to know me more. Shes been more sexual with me though. How i handle this?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.