Giantsfan88
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A boob?
What would you think?
What would you think?
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Always depends on context!!Giantsfan88 said:What would you think?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Like control of the frame?dasein said:Women will often start calling you playful names when they are getting infatuated and feel out of control, that they don't "have you" yet, goober, chief, gomer, slick, jerk, kid, bub, champ, tiger it's almost always a good sign.
But yes, does depend on context and not always a good sign, just usually.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yes. They are not used to losing frame, are used to being supplicated to, not supplicating themselves, so when they aren't just being given the frame by the guy, they start up with kiddy type jabs to temper their own supplication and insecurity. They simply aren't used to it, so tells emerge, and those tells are usually of the infantilizing sort.Giantsfan88 said:Like control of the frame?
what do you mean by "break?"dasein said:Yes. They are not used to losing frame, are used to being supplicated to, not supplicating themselves, so when they aren't just being given the frame by the guy, they start up with kiddy type jabs to temper their own supplication and insecurity. They simply aren't used to it, so tells emerge, and those tells are usually of the infantilizing sort.
The next step requires some finesse. If you allow the limerence to boil over too much and increase, they will break. They will start behaving badly, jealousy games, whining, picking fights, trying to get -something- out of you, which will kill your attraction and fun. Before this point, provided you aren't tired of them and want them to break, you toss em a scrap, one sleepover, a dinner, a lengthier phone call or two, a small, cheap gift, and the finesse is involved in doing that BEFORE any bad behavior, else they start to condition to expecting to be rewarded for bad behavior, and never overdoing it. Make the condition subtly correlated with reward-worthy behavior. It's not complicated, just requires some forethought and attention. It's not manipulative any more than any negotiation is, they just don't realize the negotiation is ongoing, and you never ever tell them that.
Perfect response. Bravo.Mike32ct said:"Thanks. I like boobs."
Go crazy, start acting out, stalking, drop in unannounced, texting calling all day, that kind of thing. This is all provided you have done the seducing and sex correctly.Giantsfan88 said:what do you mean by "break?"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.