"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If a girl called you a boob...

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Giantsfan88 said:
What would you think?
Always depends on context!!

If she's saying it in a joking way she's teasing you.

If she's saying it non-chalantly she thinks you fail miserably at life.
 

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Women will often start calling you playful names when they are getting infatuated and feel out of control, that they don't "have you" yet, goober, chief, gomer, slick, jerk, kid, bub, champ, tiger it's almost always a good sign.

But yes, does depend on context and not always a good sign, just usually.
 

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*standing close to her*

"A boob? No sweetie, you're the one with the awesome boobs", then proceed to feel her up while saying this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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call her a noob, or tell her you got a big 'boob' for her
 

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dasein said:
Women will often start calling you playful names when they are getting infatuated and feel out of control, that they don't "have you" yet, goober, chief, gomer, slick, jerk, kid, bub, champ, tiger it's almost always a good sign.

But yes, does depend on context and not always a good sign, just usually.
Like control of the frame?
 

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Say "what did you say about my boobs!" Then grab her hand and have her feel your chest

"You like them man boobs don't you"

"I like mine better than yours, lets go find out.. ask this girl who has better boobs me or you."


It's something to work with if you just met her.. but if you know the b1tch she should be smacked lol jk

Sh1t test.. you gunna man up and lead with it or fail...
 

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"I'll let you touch this boob if I can touch those boobs"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Giantsfan88 said:
Like control of the frame?
Yes. They are not used to losing frame, are used to being supplicated to, not supplicating themselves, so when they aren't just being given the frame by the guy, they start up with kiddy type jabs to temper their own supplication and insecurity. They simply aren't used to it, so tells emerge, and those tells are usually of the infantilizing sort.

The next step requires some finesse. If you allow the limerence to boil over too much and increase, they will break. They will start behaving badly, jealousy games, whining, picking fights, trying to get -something- out of you, which will kill your attraction and fun. Before this point, provided you aren't tired of them and want them to break, you toss em a scrap, one sleepover, a dinner, a lengthier phone call or two, a small, cheap gift, and the finesse is involved in doing that BEFORE any bad behavior, else they start to condition to expecting to be rewarded for bad behavior, and never overdoing it. Make the condition subtly correlated with reward-worthy behavior. It's not complicated, just requires some forethought and attention. It's not manipulative any more than any negotiation is, they just don't realize the negotiation is ongoing, and you never ever tell them that.
 

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dasein said:
Yes. They are not used to losing frame, are used to being supplicated to, not supplicating themselves, so when they aren't just being given the frame by the guy, they start up with kiddy type jabs to temper their own supplication and insecurity. They simply aren't used to it, so tells emerge, and those tells are usually of the infantilizing sort.

The next step requires some finesse. If you allow the limerence to boil over too much and increase, they will break. They will start behaving badly, jealousy games, whining, picking fights, trying to get -something- out of you, which will kill your attraction and fun. Before this point, provided you aren't tired of them and want them to break, you toss em a scrap, one sleepover, a dinner, a lengthier phone call or two, a small, cheap gift, and the finesse is involved in doing that BEFORE any bad behavior, else they start to condition to expecting to be rewarded for bad behavior, and never overdoing it. Make the condition subtly correlated with reward-worthy behavior. It's not complicated, just requires some forethought and attention. It's not manipulative any more than any negotiation is, they just don't realize the negotiation is ongoing, and you never ever tell them that.
what do you mean by "break?"
 

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Giantsfan88 said:
what do you mean by "break?"
Go crazy, start acting out, stalking, drop in unannounced, texting calling all day, that kind of thing. This is all provided you have done the seducing and sex correctly.
 

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This is the context: girl cancelled date on me last minute because of bad weather but counter offered "Friday or Saturday or if we have to wait that's fine too," claiming she really wanted to do the day of. I responded "I know you want to ;) and I just heard the roads are bad so I'd rather you not drive in them. Talk to you later." She responded "okay ya boob." No contact since and I want to invite her over on Sunday for Wednesday. But maybe I'm better off not chasing?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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