Giantsfan88
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A boob?
What would you think?
What would you think?
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Always depends on context!!Giantsfan88 said:What would you think?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Like control of the frame?dasein said:Women will often start calling you playful names when they are getting infatuated and feel out of control, that they don't "have you" yet, goober, chief, gomer, slick, jerk, kid, bub, champ, tiger it's almost always a good sign.
But yes, does depend on context and not always a good sign, just usually.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yes. They are not used to losing frame, are used to being supplicated to, not supplicating themselves, so when they aren't just being given the frame by the guy, they start up with kiddy type jabs to temper their own supplication and insecurity. They simply aren't used to it, so tells emerge, and those tells are usually of the infantilizing sort.Giantsfan88 said:Like control of the frame?
what do you mean by "break?"dasein said:Yes. They are not used to losing frame, are used to being supplicated to, not supplicating themselves, so when they aren't just being given the frame by the guy, they start up with kiddy type jabs to temper their own supplication and insecurity. They simply aren't used to it, so tells emerge, and those tells are usually of the infantilizing sort.
The next step requires some finesse. If you allow the limerence to boil over too much and increase, they will break. They will start behaving badly, jealousy games, whining, picking fights, trying to get -something- out of you, which will kill your attraction and fun. Before this point, provided you aren't tired of them and want them to break, you toss em a scrap, one sleepover, a dinner, a lengthier phone call or two, a small, cheap gift, and the finesse is involved in doing that BEFORE any bad behavior, else they start to condition to expecting to be rewarded for bad behavior, and never overdoing it. Make the condition subtly correlated with reward-worthy behavior. It's not complicated, just requires some forethought and attention. It's not manipulative any more than any negotiation is, they just don't realize the negotiation is ongoing, and you never ever tell them that.
Perfect response. Bravo.Mike32ct said:"Thanks. I like boobs."
Go crazy, start acting out, stalking, drop in unannounced, texting calling all day, that kind of thing. This is all provided you have done the seducing and sex correctly.Giantsfan88 said:what do you mean by "break?"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.