Giantsfan88
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A boob?
What would you think?
What would you think?
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Always depends on context!!Giantsfan88 said:What would you think?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Like control of the frame?dasein said:Women will often start calling you playful names when they are getting infatuated and feel out of control, that they don't "have you" yet, goober, chief, gomer, slick, jerk, kid, bub, champ, tiger it's almost always a good sign.
But yes, does depend on context and not always a good sign, just usually.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yes. They are not used to losing frame, are used to being supplicated to, not supplicating themselves, so when they aren't just being given the frame by the guy, they start up with kiddy type jabs to temper their own supplication and insecurity. They simply aren't used to it, so tells emerge, and those tells are usually of the infantilizing sort.Giantsfan88 said:Like control of the frame?
what do you mean by "break?"dasein said:Yes. They are not used to losing frame, are used to being supplicated to, not supplicating themselves, so when they aren't just being given the frame by the guy, they start up with kiddy type jabs to temper their own supplication and insecurity. They simply aren't used to it, so tells emerge, and those tells are usually of the infantilizing sort.
The next step requires some finesse. If you allow the limerence to boil over too much and increase, they will break. They will start behaving badly, jealousy games, whining, picking fights, trying to get -something- out of you, which will kill your attraction and fun. Before this point, provided you aren't tired of them and want them to break, you toss em a scrap, one sleepover, a dinner, a lengthier phone call or two, a small, cheap gift, and the finesse is involved in doing that BEFORE any bad behavior, else they start to condition to expecting to be rewarded for bad behavior, and never overdoing it. Make the condition subtly correlated with reward-worthy behavior. It's not complicated, just requires some forethought and attention. It's not manipulative any more than any negotiation is, they just don't realize the negotiation is ongoing, and you never ever tell them that.
Perfect response. Bravo.Mike32ct said:"Thanks. I like boobs."
Go crazy, start acting out, stalking, drop in unannounced, texting calling all day, that kind of thing. This is all provided you have done the seducing and sex correctly.Giantsfan88 said:what do you mean by "break?"
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.