"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Intrakit98

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Girls seem to see me as a "high standard" guy although I'm not.I act alpha male which I am. So even if they are interested they don't do anything not even smile.Just look at me with blank stares. And Idk what to do to change that how they see me. Any suggestions? Help.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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They are intimidated, show more emotion and approachability. This should probably moved to the other forum.
 

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Could someone elaborate a bit more on how to be more approachable?
 

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Intrakit98 said:
Girls seem to see me as a "high standard" guy although I'm not.I act alpha male which I am. So even if they are interested they don't do anything not even smile.Just look at me with blank stares. And Idk what to do to change that how they see me. Any suggestions? Help.
Start by posting in the correct forum.
 

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Be more approachable by smiling with relaxed body language. Do not be robotic but look attentitive and at ease. Come across as easy-going and playful.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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