She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Just curious what exactly you mean by "cost me." See, IMO, that's the root of most men's "problems" w/ women--so many of men equate their self-worth w/ the woman their with, or NOT with. Once you quit making women the center of everything you do, i.e., the things preached by true DJs (i.e. self-improvement for your own benefit), the things underlying your lack of self-confidence will seem to dissipate. Spoin those plates!! And I don't mean just having more & more women on rotation--I mean having other interests/goals.Metro3pilot said:
squirrels said:
"What! I am awesome! How dare you!"