You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Just curious what exactly you mean by "cost me." See, IMO, that's the root of most men's "problems" w/ women--so many of men equate their self-worth w/ the woman their with, or NOT with. Once you quit making women the center of everything you do, i.e., the things preached by true DJs (i.e. self-improvement for your own benefit), the things underlying your lack of self-confidence will seem to dissipate. Spoin those plates!! And I don't mean just having more & more women on rotation--I mean having other interests/goals.Metro3pilot said:
squirrels said:
"What! I am awesome! How dare you!"