She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just curious what exactly you mean by "cost me." See, IMO, that's the root of most men's "problems" w/ women--so many of men equate their self-worth w/ the woman their with, or NOT with. Once you quit making women the center of everything you do, i.e., the things preached by true DJs (i.e. self-improvement for your own benefit), the things underlying your lack of self-confidence will seem to dissipate. Spoin those plates!! And I don't mean just having more & more women on rotation--I mean having other interests/goals.Metro3pilot said:
squirrels said:
"What! I am awesome! How dare you!"