You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Just curious what exactly you mean by "cost me." See, IMO, that's the root of most men's "problems" w/ women--so many of men equate their self-worth w/ the woman their with, or NOT with. Once you quit making women the center of everything you do, i.e., the things preached by true DJs (i.e. self-improvement for your own benefit), the things underlying your lack of self-confidence will seem to dissipate. Spoin those plates!! And I don't mean just having more & more women on rotation--I mean having other interests/goals.Metro3pilot said:
squirrels said:
"What! I am awesome! How dare you!"