Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Just curious what exactly you mean by "cost me." See, IMO, that's the root of most men's "problems" w/ women--so many of men equate their self-worth w/ the woman their with, or NOT with. Once you quit making women the center of everything you do, i.e., the things preached by true DJs (i.e. self-improvement for your own benefit), the things underlying your lack of self-confidence will seem to dissipate. Spoin those plates!! And I don't mean just having more & more women on rotation--I mean having other interests/goals.Metro3pilot said:
squirrels said:
"What! I am awesome! How dare you!"