"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"I want to get to know you"
- Thread starter Hurrican
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
"I wanna get to know ya -- I really wanna **** you, bay-beh"
I would not use this. I personally play minds games with girls through words and not answering my phone,thus being my push. Now I always leave the part of me "wanting" or "getting to get to know them" them in what I do physically,thus being my pull. Never say what you want,act what you want physically. The moment you express what you want verbally she knows you are hooked.Hurrican said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
WORKEROUTER
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Obviously by approaching her you want to get to know her. You don't need to tell her.
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I think it's a great line to use, if you have no other natural way of approaching the girl. It's simple, and sounds sincere. :rockon:
But here's the main problem, I see with it. While it will work as a opener, it could mess your game up with the target girl afterwords. Because it's giving her to much leverage. IE: She knows you want her already. It gives her no challenge, no mystery, and makes her, not you, the Prize to be won. :nono:
But don't sweat it, I think it will work great with one little tweak to the "line."
Here it is: Approach girl:
"Hi, I'm Hurrican. Would you like to get to know ME better?" :rockon:
See how, this sets the right frame? Hell, I think I'm going to try this opener this weekend.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That is a solid opener that requires a continued solid followthrough. It is a chance to develop some rapport and setup a date.
Keep in mind that this opener is useful when you've already made eye contact, you smiled or had some sense that she wanted to speak with you in the first place. It's not a great idea for cases where she's reading a book and you tap her on the shoulder, she looks over to see your face glaring at hers "Hi, im bob, want to get to know me better?"
It does however generate several quick "How do you suggest I do that?" "Sure, what can you tell me about yourself? "I dont know. Should I?" "What is there to know about you?"
I completely agree. The only way to know and to develop experience is to get out and experiment with your theories. Even if they fail, you have just gained field experience that will serve you well in future.Bourne said:
There seems to be a lot of "I'd say this" or "I'd do that" kind of advice on this board, but what really counts is the past tense advice that says "I DID this" or "I TRIED that".