"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"I want to get to know you"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Serialized3
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"I wanna get to know ya -- I really wanna **** you, bay-beh"
I would not use this. I personally play minds games with girls through words and not answering my phone,thus being my push. Now I always leave the part of me "wanting" or "getting to get to know them" them in what I do physically,thus being my pull. Never say what you want,act what you want physically. The moment you express what you want verbally she knows you are hooked.Hurrican said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
WORKEROUTER
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Obviously by approaching her you want to get to know her. You don't need to tell her.
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I think it's a great line to use, if you have no other natural way of approaching the girl. It's simple, and sounds sincere. :rockon:
But here's the main problem, I see with it. While it will work as a opener, it could mess your game up with the target girl afterwords. Because it's giving her to much leverage. IE: She knows you want her already. It gives her no challenge, no mystery, and makes her, not you, the Prize to be won. :nono:
But don't sweat it, I think it will work great with one little tweak to the "line."
Here it is: Approach girl:
"Hi, I'm Hurrican. Would you like to get to know ME better?" :rockon:
See how, this sets the right frame? Hell, I think I'm going to try this opener this weekend.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That is a solid opener that requires a continued solid followthrough. It is a chance to develop some rapport and setup a date.
Keep in mind that this opener is useful when you've already made eye contact, you smiled or had some sense that she wanted to speak with you in the first place. It's not a great idea for cases where she's reading a book and you tap her on the shoulder, she looks over to see your face glaring at hers "Hi, im bob, want to get to know me better?"
It does however generate several quick "How do you suggest I do that?" "Sure, what can you tell me about yourself? "I dont know. Should I?" "What is there to know about you?"
I completely agree. The only way to know and to develop experience is to get out and experiment with your theories. Even if they fail, you have just gained field experience that will serve you well in future.Bourne said:
There seems to be a lot of "I'd say this" or "I'd do that" kind of advice on this board, but what really counts is the past tense advice that says "I DID this" or "I TRIED that".