"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I want a long-term-relationship....

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Hey,

I'm 17 and I've never had a proper relationship before, never even kissed a girl before.

But in the last few days, I've discovered something strange. I've become non-sexually motivated.

To me, now, I feel I want a girlfriend - a proper relationship.

A girlfriend who I can hug, hangout with, watch movies together, hold hands, go for walks etc. As stupid as it sounds, this is now what I want.

Before, all I wanted was "pvssy" and "ass", although I still like it, I feel getting it is just a bonus to the relationship - but nevertheless I still want a "cute" looking girl, I wont take anything.

Urgh, I guess i've just turned weak or really desperate.

I've spend the last few days gaming with my alpha-wingman and I can't even find one decent girl. :(

Oh well, such is life.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Anybody who fulfills my criteria...

Cute, smart, funny
 
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Don't they have to kiss you first? Maybe go out on a date or two? Maybe have sex? I mean, all those things before you can commit to a long term relationship..
 
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Yeh yeh i know. But I feel that if I want to do those things, it would be better to do it with someone who I think I could keep going out with for a while.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think you should just practice kissing first, or the things that lead up to that point..

That way, by the time you enter into long term relationship, you will have the tools you need for it..

Also, practice sex, and breaking up..
 
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Yeh, I guess so. I suppose "long term relationship" was the wrong term.

I just want to date someone on a deep level, and not just any old date.
 
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Do you consider yourself an active person? Do you have lots of hobbies and things to keep you busy? You're probably just looking for companionship cos you're lonely. A steady significant other.

Not much wrong with that, but try keep yourself busy with other stuff so you don't become too desperate, while at the same time talking to plenty of girls and keeping an eye out for someone you get along with particularly well. Then charm her and try to elevate things.

But it's important to take your time (in the search, deciding on someone and progressing into relationship). There's no rush. You're only 17.
 
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Yeh its probably because I'm lonely.
 
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Yo, spax.. You never kissed a girl, you never sexed a girl, nor I think you ever approached a girl, and if you did, you didn't escalate..


I think your feeling is not genuine.. The feeling you have is false, and not legitimate.. Reality is, IMO, you are afraid of failing with a woman.. This fear of failing, prevents you from escalating, kissing, and other things..


It is likely, that your mind does not think of failure as a positive thing that closes one door up, and opens another one up.. You should associate failure with getting better. :flowers:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Na, I just don't meet enough. Go to all guys school. The chicks in the malls and shopping strips are all to old or young :-(
 
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I don't believe that there isn't enough women out there. I believe that you don't meet enough of them.


That all guy school.. Is it religious? Are you from a religious family where the prevailing believe is that sex before marriage is wrong? I'm not asking what you think about this, just if you are around people that think that way..
 
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Its a religious school but no issue about sex before marriage, and noone around really presents that thought.
 
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Na man. Im totally athiest. My family aint religious or anything, I just go to the school because it has really good choices and teachers. Its not uber-religious anyway.

I guess I'm probably just lonely and wanting someone to open up to and always be there.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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spax said:
Na man. Im totally athiest. My family aint religious or anything, I just go to the school because it has really good choices and teachers. Its not uber-religious anyway.

I guess I'm probably just lonely and wanting someone to open up to and always be there.
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I thought 'athiests' were more independent and strong!! you are clearly not that! At the same time, you are just 17, so I can take that into consideration.
 
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