"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I want a long-term-relationship....

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Hey,

I'm 17 and I've never had a proper relationship before, never even kissed a girl before.

But in the last few days, I've discovered something strange. I've become non-sexually motivated.

To me, now, I feel I want a girlfriend - a proper relationship.

A girlfriend who I can hug, hangout with, watch movies together, hold hands, go for walks etc. As stupid as it sounds, this is now what I want.

Before, all I wanted was "pvssy" and "ass", although I still like it, I feel getting it is just a bonus to the relationship - but nevertheless I still want a "cute" looking girl, I wont take anything.

Urgh, I guess i've just turned weak or really desperate.

I've spend the last few days gaming with my alpha-wingman and I can't even find one decent girl. :(

Oh well, such is life.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Anybody who fulfills my criteria...

Cute, smart, funny
 
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Don't they have to kiss you first? Maybe go out on a date or two? Maybe have sex? I mean, all those things before you can commit to a long term relationship..
 
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Yeh yeh i know. But I feel that if I want to do those things, it would be better to do it with someone who I think I could keep going out with for a while.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I think you should just practice kissing first, or the things that lead up to that point..

That way, by the time you enter into long term relationship, you will have the tools you need for it..

Also, practice sex, and breaking up..
 
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Yeh, I guess so. I suppose "long term relationship" was the wrong term.

I just want to date someone on a deep level, and not just any old date.
 
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Do you consider yourself an active person? Do you have lots of hobbies and things to keep you busy? You're probably just looking for companionship cos you're lonely. A steady significant other.

Not much wrong with that, but try keep yourself busy with other stuff so you don't become too desperate, while at the same time talking to plenty of girls and keeping an eye out for someone you get along with particularly well. Then charm her and try to elevate things.

But it's important to take your time (in the search, deciding on someone and progressing into relationship). There's no rush. You're only 17.
 
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Yeh its probably because I'm lonely.
 
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Yo, spax.. You never kissed a girl, you never sexed a girl, nor I think you ever approached a girl, and if you did, you didn't escalate..


I think your feeling is not genuine.. The feeling you have is false, and not legitimate.. Reality is, IMO, you are afraid of failing with a woman.. This fear of failing, prevents you from escalating, kissing, and other things..


It is likely, that your mind does not think of failure as a positive thing that closes one door up, and opens another one up.. You should associate failure with getting better. :flowers:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Na, I just don't meet enough. Go to all guys school. The chicks in the malls and shopping strips are all to old or young :-(
 
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I don't believe that there isn't enough women out there. I believe that you don't meet enough of them.


That all guy school.. Is it religious? Are you from a religious family where the prevailing believe is that sex before marriage is wrong? I'm not asking what you think about this, just if you are around people that think that way..
 
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Its a religious school but no issue about sex before marriage, and noone around really presents that thought.
 
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Na man. Im totally athiest. My family aint religious or anything, I just go to the school because it has really good choices and teachers. Its not uber-religious anyway.

I guess I'm probably just lonely and wanting someone to open up to and always be there.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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spax said:
Na man. Im totally athiest. My family aint religious or anything, I just go to the school because it has really good choices and teachers. Its not uber-religious anyway.

I guess I'm probably just lonely and wanting someone to open up to and always be there.
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I thought 'athiests' were more independent and strong!! you are clearly not that! At the same time, you are just 17, so I can take that into consideration.
 
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