I want a long-term-relationship....

[spax]

Hey,

I'm 17 and I've never had a proper relationship before, never even kissed a girl before.

But in the last few days, I've discovered something strange. I've become non-sexually motivated.

To me, now, I feel I want a girlfriend - a proper relationship.

A girlfriend who I can hug, hangout with, watch movies together, hold hands, go for walks etc. As stupid as it sounds, this is now what I want.

Before, all I wanted was "pvssy" and "ass", although I still like it, I feel getting it is just a bonus to the relationship - but nevertheless I still want a "cute" looking girl, I wont take anything.

Urgh, I guess i've just turned weak or really desperate.

I've spend the last few days gaming with my alpha-wingman and I can't even find one decent girl.

Oh well, such is life.

 

[Mr. Wolf]

Do you just want a long term relationship with anybody or someone special?

 

[spax]

Anybody who fulfills my criteria...

Cute, smart, funny

 

[Mr. Wolf]

Don't they have to kiss you first? Maybe go out on a date or two? Maybe have sex? I mean, all those things before you can commit to a long term relationship..

 

[spax]

Yeh yeh i know. But I feel that if I want to do those things, it would be better to do it with someone who I think I could keep going out with for a while.

 

[Mr. Wolf]

I think you should just practice kissing first, or the things that lead up to that point..

That way, by the time you enter into long term relationship, you will have the tools you need for it..

Also, practice sex, and breaking up..

 

[spax]

Yeh, I guess so. I suppose "long term relationship" was the wrong term.

I just want to date someone on a deep level, and not just any old date.

 

[PlaysToWin]

Do you consider yourself an active person? Do you have lots of hobbies and things to keep you busy? You're probably just looking for companionship cos you're lonely. A steady significant other.

Not much wrong with that, but try keep yourself busy with other stuff so you don't become too desperate, while at the same time talking to plenty of girls and keeping an eye out for someone you get along with particularly well. Then charm her and try to elevate things.

But it's important to take your time (in the search, deciding on someone and progressing into relationship). There's no rush. You're only 17.

 

[spax]

Yeh its probably because I'm lonely.

 

[Mr. Wolf]

Yo, spax.. You never kissed a girl, you never sexed a girl, nor I think you ever approached a girl, and if you did, you didn't escalate..


I think your feeling is not genuine.. The feeling you have is false, and not legitimate.. Reality is, IMO, you are afraid of failing with a woman.. This fear of failing, prevents you from escalating, kissing, and other things..


It is likely, that your mind does not think of failure as a positive thing that closes one door up, and opens another one up.. You should associate failure with getting better. :flowers:

 

[spax]

Na, I just don't meet enough. Go to all guys school. The chicks in the malls and shopping strips are all to old or young :-(

 

[Mr. Wolf]

I don't believe that there isn't enough women out there. I believe that you don't meet enough of them.


That all guy school.. Is it religious? Are you from a religious family where the prevailing believe is that sex before marriage is wrong? I'm not asking what you think about this, just if you are around people that think that way..

 

[spax]

Its a religious school but no issue about sex before marriage, and noone around really presents that thought.

 

[Mr. Wolf]

You have a mind virus, and years around those people allowed you to develop a mental immune system toward truth.

Spend 40 minutes watching this film.

 

[spax]

Na man. Im totally athiest. My family aint religious or anything, I just go to the school because it has really good choices and teachers. Its not uber-religious anyway.

I guess I'm probably just lonely and wanting someone to open up to and always be there.

 

[ducaro]

Na man. Im totally athiest. My family aint religious or anything, I just go to the school because it has really good choices and teachers. Its not uber-religious anyway.

I guess I'm probably just lonely and wanting someone to open up to and always be there.

I thought 'athiests' were more independent and strong!! you are clearly not that! At the same time, you are just 17, so I can take that into consideration.