Yesterday everyone in my office was working late and our only female colleague decided to buy a load of snacks and drinks to help get us through the remainder of the day. I complimented her saying ‘she was like the mother of the office’ and was met with a stern ‘please don’t say that’ by her and a similar comment from a male senior... I’m informed that this is now a sexest thing to say..Is it?
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I told a female colleague she was the ‘mother of the office’
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Yes, it is. She told you this directly. I’d apologize to her in a sincere tone and say you won’t make a comment like that again.
This is NOT the “fight” to pick in regards to right vs wrong. The me too movement is costing men their jobs every day. Companies will fire you immediately at the first wind of sexual harassment.
Also, that was a shvtty compliment. Graciousness is - “thank you for the snacks. I appreciate it.” You sounded like an ungrateful dvck.
How on earth is that sexist/sexual harassment?
If anything she's probably p!ssed because she doesn't want to be seen as old
She sounds like a bag of misery. I would have a FIELD day with her
If anything she's probably p!ssed because she doesn't want to be seen as old
She sounds like a bag of misery. I would have a FIELD day with her
It's costing women their jobs too. Some companies won't hire them
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“Mother” is not something you’d say to a man.
It doesn’t matter why she is pissed. Pissing off coworkers creates an uncomfortable work environment. This is amplified even more when females are in question. No one wants to work with an aszhole.
Evidence?
Not looking for an argument here, I’m looking to be educated and have this rationalised as to why it’s offensive..
maybe I’m being dumb but I really don’t get it
I could write a big reply but I'm just going to say I don't care
Some people are just looking to be offended
And Forbes is my evidence. Google it
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Don’t compliment women ever in a work environment. It’s inappropriate. Why did you feel the need to say that rather than a simple thank you?
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No. You just have poor social skills.
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Why would you neg someone at work?
I saw females saying that to they bosses and teacher in college, since he really did helped everyone in there.If a male did the same would you say “you’re like the daddy of the office”?
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Not saying that you would or you wouldn't. I just think it sounds like a neg.
No i'd probably use the word mother again.If a male did the same would you say “you’re like the daddy of the office”?
Rather than assigning roles for office work behavior, a simple Thanks for thinking about us, it was very considerate, would have been more than sufficient …
My opinion is that it was unprofessional. Simple as that. Businesses aren't families and you're not there to play house. I'm sure you meant no offense by the comment, and probably meant it as a compliment, so consider it a simple lesson.
So if one guy in the office decides to bring the post up from the reception every morning out of his choice, and after saying thank you I say to him 'you are like the postman of the office', is that offensive?
Why is jokingly giving a role, offensive? I want to get down to why this is actually offensive and unprofessional? What is the reason for this etiquette? What does it prevent, what does it achieve?
I actually work in a really chilled office. Its not professional or corporate whatsoever, apart from the work we do. We wear what we want, work flexible hours, make dis tasteful jokes out of the other guys and get them back. (we do software development, so think your typical computer geeks) I guess that's partly why I don't get the reaction of this woman.
You are looking for a logical answer. I can’t explain why, it just is asking for trouble to refer to women at work as or describe them as anything other than your coworker.
20 years ago this comment would have not been an issue at all but we live in hypersensitive times and women like this h*e at your job are looking for any reason they can to say “me too”