"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ItsOnNow

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Like I don't idk,embrace it. I don't go with the desires I want. Instead,I just jerk off to porn all the time.I don't know what this is,it's making me nuts. It's like,I want it,but I don't go for it. Idk if it's anxiety,or bad past social experiences. I do know this,I want to be honest and genuine though.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mr. Tits had an excellent post about getting out of one's COMFORT ZONE.

That changed my life.

Maybe it'll help you too.

Listen to some good music. Limit your porn. Get out of your comfort zone.

Cheers
 

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ItsOnNow said:
I don't go with the desires I want. Instead,I just jerk off to porn all the time.
There's your problem. Stop looking at porn. If you feel that it is having a negative effect on your sex drive then stop the porn.
 

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porn makes things way too easy for you. think about it. if jerkin off wasnt an option u would prolly go for women more agressively.
 

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That,plus coming to some realizations,I have put too much pressure on some things I shouldn't be...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stop jerking off.

Dude you know the problem, you know how to get around it, so quit it!

I guarantee you, two weeks without jacking it will do wonders.
 

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I quit for three weeks last year. In those three weeks I had more opportunities than a whole year when it comes to women. Of course back then I didn't have the balls to do anything with those opportunities, but the point is, not masturbating is a good thing. I'm working on stopping now
 

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DonGorgon said:
Stop eating sweets and breathing air too...LOL its that hard for some...
Thats because they have no options.
 
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Go to the masturbation thread and read it until you are motivated to stop jacking off. There are many good reasons to stop choking the chicken. Your problem here is laziness.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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